Would you get married or ask someone to marry you if you knew you weren't completely over someone from the past?
2006-11-20 12:21:10 · 12 answers · asked by lc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not evryone who gets maried is completely in love. When i married my husband i was still in love with someone else. But that someone else i thought of him as a 'dream', my husband is my 'reality'. We've been married 3 yrs now, and although the thought of that someone else still crosses my mind sometimes, the longing just isnt there anymore. I love my husband now more than anybody else.
2006-11-20 12:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by maimai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never works out...if you are still in love with that other person, then no matter how hard you try, your expectations of the new spouse will never be met. From firsthand experience, I married a guy that I thought I loved, all the while knowing that I absolutely still loved my high school sweetheart. After three very long years of being miserable, we decided to end it, becuase neither of us was truly happy. I am now going to marry my high school sweetheart next fall, and I know we will be happy together because we have been living together for the past 3 1/2 years and life is wonderful. I feel bad about marrying the other guy knowing it could never work out, but you live and you learn, and when you are 18 sometimes you do stupid things.
2006-11-21 00:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by stacijo531 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who married a man she didn't particularly "love" but thought that with time, she'd learn to love him
The marriage ended rather ugly and not only ruined their lives, but the children's as well.
If you are just thinking about your past and have fond memories of someone, that's fine. But if you have true unresolved feelings for someone else, donot start a relationship with someone else. It's rather unfair.
2006-11-20 12:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i did , i wasn't really in love with the other person i just couldn't forget him, i have been married for 10 years now and i occasionally see the other guy he is a good friend and my husband knows him as well, im not about to get a divorce because i occasionally think of another bloke, but if you are IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED TO ANOTHER PERSON.
2006-11-20 12:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by nell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about him, and put your energies into your husband.. 10 days vs. 14 yrs...(hmmm..) Seems that should tell you something.. If it is mean't to be for you and him, it will be... You hear of ppl all the time, reuniting with "the love of their life" even years later, but if you neither seen or heard from him in all these years, I would forget about it and be truly thankful for what you have...
2016-05-22 02:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever would do that would just dig a bigger hole for themselves and cause the other person unwanted hurt if they ever found out (and they probably would) It's just a horrible thing to do. And I thought dating someone just to get over another person was bad. This would be 100 times worse.
2006-11-20 12:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Full Moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way..Divorce is too expensive when you could of NOT asked them to marry you in the first place.
2006-11-20 12:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by claria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did, But I grew to love my husband, and as months then years passed,
you forget about the other person.
2006-11-20 12:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by 520 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on my wedding day i made sweet love to the minister who wed us in the second pew in the chapel.. it was hot and passionate like many secret times before.. this time was...wow..and we were in love but god forbid..... it was the biggest turn on in my life ....and i sometimes think about my true love..and my wedding day when i make love to my husband so yes
2006-11-20 12:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by squawwitoutamule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your just setting yourself up for failure ... you need to get closure before you move on and get married.
2006-11-20 12:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋