Should I give in, or wait to see if it sinks in him?

Question

My Hubby and I got into an arguement because he slapped my daughter's hand over something I thought was stupid. We got into a huge arguement and we both began to yell at each other. I told (yelled) him that he went overboard. I never told him anything disrespectful or hurtful. He on the other hand did. He told me to shut up, called me a few things, and brought up stuff from when we were seperated last year. He's been sleeping in another room out of choice and will not talk to me. I tried talking to him but he gives me his back and won't really respond to me. I tried to tell him how I feel. I explained to him that he was acting like he did before we seperated (cold & w/o showing affection). He has too much pride and makes up excuses. I don't know what to do at this point. He won't go to counceling so thats out of the picture. It's been three days now.

Answer 1

Get rid of him! That is a way of abuse! He is making you guilty with the silence treatment. He wants you to crawl on your knees and beg him for forgiveness. Just let it go! Don't even try to talk to him, to cook or clean his clothes and you'll see, hell come to you. Hitting children is not OK, and you did the right thing, he knows that but wont to admit his mistake. If you have a man whit whom you are unable to sit down and discuss issues then there is no future. If this is the first time he is acting like this you might want to patch thing up but if this is happening often than just kick his sorry **s out.
Not to mentioned names calling....

Answer 2

It sounds like a tough choice. You are right though. You know how to argue, without name calling and yelling about things that doesn't prove a point. Maybe you should apologize first. I know, it sucks but do you love him? That's no way to be happy in a marriage. Then have a heart to heart chat about the type of arguments he has with you. If he doesn't budge, then he doesn't really care about your feelings to much. Something you have to ask yourself is Is your marriage really worth working out if your husband doesn't want to? Good luck. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

One thing parents need to agree on and back up one another in disipline.......The right kind though...but you have to put on an united front for the kids...Or they will use one parent against the other...Sounds like there is more here than meets the eye...If you think counseling will help start going alone first and see if he will go later as family counseling...Think there is going to have to be some intervention..............

Answer 4

well i dont know what u believe but i know for a fact that prayer works...an answere may not come imidiatly but one will come...ill be praying for u and him...but in the mean time...(u may have tried this already) but go in and tell him that u love him more than anything and that it means a lot to u if he would talk to him and tell him that it effects ur daughter if she sees him respond this way...she might always feel deep down that hes cold...but just love him and how much he means to u...ill be praying really hard for u and him!!

Answer 5

I hate to say this, but you can't make something work if only one person is trying.

So give him time. When he is ready to talk in a rational manner try to keep your statements short and to the point. Keep it matter of fact.

But most importantly, the question is whether or not this is a relationship you'd like to be a partner in.

Answer 6

I rinse each thing a splash and throw them in the dishwasher....yet specific, I wait until the washer gets complete to start it to maintain potential. quite of washing each and each time a dish gets thrown in there.

Answer 7

Please don't fight like that in front of your kids it is very damaging. I wouldn't give in, his attitude was clearly out of line. If it keeps up I would ask him to leave. Come on do you really need this drama..... I think not!, nor do your kid(s).

Answer 8

Leave...start over.....