I have two kids, and he has none. We have been dating for 7 months and he sleeps over every night. We get along okay, but whenever I ask him to go to dinner, the movies, or the mall...he sudddenly gets busy or is too tired. We used to do allot things together, but now it seems like we only see each other for an hour or so then we go to bed. I try to talk and he says he just needs sleep. He does own his own business and does work allot, but he is his own boss and has taken days off before. Plus he will go hang out with his friends and tells me a time that he will be back and he is always late. If I call him to ask when he will be back, he either forwards me to voicemail, or tells me that he'll be there in such amount of time, and he never is.Whenever I ask him about this, he gets mad and tells me not to start again or he will leave. I really love him and dont want him to leave, but I want him to spend some time with me besides sittin on the couch watching tv or sleeping. Please help
2006-11-20 12:13:59 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he thinks he has got u. so he doesn't belive u'll leave him. so he is not taking u serious. if u let this continue then it will get harder to stop later. make a stand now.if he gets mad tell him tough sh*t this is how u feel and if he can't respect that then step off.
2006-11-20 12:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN as fast as you can away from this guy. He's using u for a piece of ***. He sounds just like my ex (run fast as hell if his name is Todd), it's never going to get any better trust me. If you don't beleive me go get the book HES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU, I don't remember the author, but I think this book will help you see that your in denial. If this guy wanted to be with you, he would do whatever it takes to make you happy.
2006-11-20 12:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by frenchie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer and it's gonna sound *ick!...........................
girl, he's just not that into you! plus, you have kids....BINGO! he's not a father and until then he does not need to feel tied to some woman with children but he will use you to take care of his needs. You're like a momma to him. You need to be stron and leave him. Trust me, a real man does not act immature in that way. if he loves his woman he WILL spend time with her and not just cause he says "but baby I do love you" means he does. sorry but that is the sad truth! baby girl, be strong!
2006-11-20 12:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by PS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it sounds to me like he is no longer interested in you as he first was.
And perhaps he even has another interest if you catch my drift.
Now what you need to do is look within your self and ask Do I really want to waste my time with a person who does not want to give me a few minutes to talk.
Show pride in your self and kick him to the curve.
2006-11-20 12:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by what? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he is ready for a relationship with you. he keeps avoiding spending time with you other than sleeping. you are not in a relationship with this guy...you're more like a hotel. that's not fair. you need to drop this guy. you can get over him. it will be hard..but you should leave him.
2006-11-20 12:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot to what has been ur problem... its either you have made him change from who he used to be or he changed himself. has there ever been some discussions between you two that requires some improvement or turnovers from you? if yes hit me back.
2006-11-20 12:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by thonjela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you for sex...
Set a better example for the kids (so any boys will know this is NOT how to treat a woman and so the girls will know you do NOT let a man treat you this way)...
DUMP HIM ASAP!!!
You (and the kids) deserve better!
2006-11-20 12:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by ilovetiti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, i'm sorry sweetie. It is kind of sad when men do that. I think the best thing to do is be the sweetest most submissive wife you can be. When he comes home, have a warm or cold drink ready and touch up your make up. Let him be the first to speak and maybe offer him a massage. Don't nag if he wants to go out but just be supportive. Hopefully, he will start to really like you for being so sweet and he will take you out :)
2006-11-20 12:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Sounds to me that he is using you as a "bed" buddy. If I were you, I would get rid of him and focus on your children - they should be your first priority.
2006-11-20 12:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by MT Hammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see.. most of the gals give tat advice
LEAVE HIM .... DROP HIM...
so am i...
but i know it's difficult...
u said u have 2 kids, rite?? tats mean u divorced once time...
& i m going to tell u find a guy tat can look after ur kid.. not u...
2006-11-20 12:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by Rosia R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋