On the radio earlier, one guy called up and said his new girlfriend had admitted to him that she had had 53 lovers, and she was 'only' 26 years old. He seemed a bit worried about it. Would you be?
2006-11-20 12:07:26 · 34 answers · asked by Snowth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nah, my man was a male s.lag, hes lost count. hes grown up now and as long as hes strictly a one women man now, i dont really care how many girls he had in his past, not relevant really is it, cus when we are younger we dont think about the future.
2006-11-20 12:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
well yeah that's a bit nasty. do the math, because even if she was like, 13, that's like 13 years, 53 guys, guess that's like 4 guys a year or once every four months.
hey i knew someone that told me like, 125. of course they were just friends i wasn't in it myself but she was like, 28. so i did the math and figured that was like someone every month, month and a half tops.
but hey you never know; i think the bottom line is, if you're single, or just have a boyfriend and haven't been married you really don't know what situation you'll find yourself in. it's easy to judge; for some of us "nice" people, it takes a rather serious emotional commitment to be with someone in that way, though we can easily have feelings for a few different people at a time so we're not that much better.
so i guess the real question isn't whether or not she's with someone every other month, week or day or whatever may be the situation, but how secure you are in the relationship to begin with, because this girl could really be into you, at that moment, right now, and those other 53 guys wouldn't matter. who is she in love with right now, that's all that matters ...
2006-11-20 12:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because 53 lovers shows a lack of self respect for oneself whether man or woman. Plus this means he has a lot of competition to 'perform' up to and maybe the more partners means she is more likely to cheat. These are all things I would be worried about besides the obvious disease and abortion possibilities in the past.
2006-11-20 12:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by questioningly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on their age. Using the example you gave, I'd be unimpressed. I am 21 and have slept with 2 people, both of them long term partners. I think 5 is an acceptable figure for my age. But then again, my partner is older than me and has a fair few more than me and that's OK. I prefer them to have had under 35 lovers. Also, I like older men so that figure is acceptable.
2006-11-20 22:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Little One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter at all, I'm in the 50's too and I'm 25. Especially when I only really became sexually active at 21(I'd slept with 2 people before then). But thats my past, its part of who I am but not relevant to now, I'm completly faithful to my girlfriend now. Also contuary to popular belief just because you've selpt with a lot of people doesn't make you less of a person or riddled with diseases, I was always faithful when it was more than 1 night and I always used a condom (I even changed when there was more than 1 involved). Its called experimenting, its not a bad thing!!
2006-11-20 15:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the quality comment. but if shes had 53 in that short of time? say shes been having sex for 10 yrs. say thats 5 guys a year. which means a new guy every other month.yikes. i dont know how quality those relationships could have been. she should try getting to know someone a bit longer then just jumping into bed with them. with the STD rate growing at the rate it is, if you still considering being with her, make sure she gets checked out first. you wouldnt want to catch something who knows who shes been with.
2006-11-20 12:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my humble opinion, the rate she describes is quite average for people in certain parts of the country.
I won't say essex but certainly east london is one, and parts of manchester and liverpool too.
when i was in college in EL i knew girls that went out every friday to have a drink and pick a guy to bed for the night, where I worked in liverpool i also met one or two similar girls there. A few irish girls that lived near my flat also dated quite regularly... all i'm saying is that it's not unheard of where i've been. you can only educate against it, you can't call it 'lack of discipline' 'cos you'll be ostracised and who among them would care about 'respect' when it's an opportunity to have a decent shag with someone to top off the night?
they're young, so far I hope God is on their side, or luck because -and I don't mean this uncharitably - given the rising count of STD positive people in these areas, statistics certainly aren't.
2006-11-20 12:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lot. I would rather be with someone who valued quality over the quantity of lovers they have had. Looks like she is just going for the numbers. Makes you wonder how many STD's she has had since that age group has the highest rate.
2006-11-20 12:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a bit too much for a 26 year old
2006-11-20 17:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
53? that's a good few alright. My partner admits to "about" ten. I admit to 13. Not bad, we are in our fifties.
It's all relevant, isn't it? It's what's acceptable in any relationship that matters,and thats private between the couple concerned.
The only thing that would niggle at me would be, "will I catch anything?"
2006-11-20 12:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you do the math, if she startede having sex at 16 thats about 1 per month, if he isnt looking for something long term and sure that she is clean he shouldnt worry about it. There is probably a reason all of those relationships didnt work out, and that is something to think about b4 expecting a long term relatioinship.
2006-11-20 12:19:07 · answer #11 · answered by Kevin M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋