I've been dating my boyfriend for 3.5 months. Our relationship has been AMAZING. He loves me, I love him, etc. However, yesterday, he told me that he's been thinking about his ex recently (as in the last week). He says he knows for sure that he loves me, and he also knows that he's really happy with me. However, he doesn't want to be unfair to me and pretend like he's not having feelings for his ex. All this came up when she told him that she started dating again. Now she's interested in some guy. He told me it never really occurred to him that she would move on, too. Now, he's worried about losing her as a friend forever. I think he's jealous that she might get as close or even closer with someone else than she was with him (they dated for 3 years). When she's not interested in someone else, then he's not interested in her. But, now, jealousy has set in. I'm not sure what to do. Part of me feels like this is just natural. But, am I a fool for thinking he still wants me?
2006-11-20 12:04:48 · 7 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like a normal reaction to me. he'll get over it just be patient good luck.
luv kby xx
2006-11-20 12:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by kennyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him some time and space if that was the case. If jealousy is a factor to his reaction than he probably hasn't sought out total closure with her and still has some feelings lingering within him. I'm surprised of his forwardness and honesty. Not many people do that. He does love you enough to tell you the total truth though. Try to assure him that you love him and show your good qualitites. Within time, he'd eventually careless about his ex. Good luck!
2006-11-20 12:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do know from experience only, and I am not a professional or anything, but, if he is talking with you this honestly, he obviously cares for you. If he didn't, he wouldn't tell you all that he is feeling. That is one of the most important thing to remember, Always communicate with your partner. Lack of it can cause too many misunderstandings. Good luck!!
2006-11-20 12:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by barb b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were my boyfriend, I'd say "looks like you're not really over her yet. Sounds like you need some space to figure out what you want. I don't want to be with a man unless he's really into me." Then I'd start seeing someone else. If he came crawling back TO ME, I'd really make him swear he cares, and isn't just into chasing what he can't catch. Sounds a little immature. But then, I'm guessing you guys aren't in your forties. ;-)
2006-11-20 12:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is natural for him to feel that way...and if he knows that he doesn't want to be with her...than that is good...
He isn't leading you on at all...that is great...
The feelings that he is having will pass...at least he is talking to you about it...you should feel good that he sharing this with you...
2006-11-20 12:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by ladydrea2918 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just hasnt gotten over her he wont move on till she does but you shloud probaly tellu need some time apart so you can she is he worth wait for
2006-11-20 12:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by kayia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. guys don't usually focus on one person at a time. he could still love you, but think somebody else is attractive. it depends on the guy...
2006-11-20 12:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Peta Chips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋