I've pretty much concluded by her behavior that she has no interest in me or my son.
I call my mom to ask permission to visit and she always says 'NO I am only 20 minutes away!
this is especially hard for me around the holiday season
lately Ive thought about changing my # and not have to deal with her anymore..I'm sick and tired of begging her to be part of our lives....I was sad at first now I'm just angry.
2006-11-20 12:01:12 · 12 answers · asked by incoming03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Perhaps she is menopausal or going through a difficult transition or maybe she has an untreated mental illness/ substance use abuse issue. Try to pray for her and give it time and space. You don't have to beg or put yourself through emotional turmoil but family is precious don't give up. Much love and God Bless You!!!!!
2006-11-20 12:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Stacye S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rejection is a difficult thing to accept especially when it's coming from someone who is supposed to love you, but sometimes we must simply face reality and move on with our lives without that other person. It's certainly painful but for some people the statement "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is absolutely true. Take your child and get as far away from your mother as possible so that her heart will grow very, very fond while your heart heals from those wounds that rejection creates. You are no longer a child and it is now your responsibility to be the best mom you know how to be so that your son will never experience the agony of rejection that you are experiencing at this time in your life. I wish you the best!
2006-11-20 20:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, as a mother I don't know how another mother would treat their daughter (or son) that way. If she has always been this way then I'd have to say, just let it go and don't call her because she just continuing to hurt you and you don't need or deserve that. But if this is something recent, maybe she's depressed and you really need to talk to her about this and how you are hurt and confused over her behavior. I can understand your anger because you have not done anything but try to have a relationship and she is disrespecting your feelings.
2006-11-20 20:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by TatuGrl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first don't get anger cause i had to learn that anger make other people hurt. what i would do was send her letter about how you feel. were you cool when you were young? if so moms go through age of time were in her mind she thinking i don,t want to be around no body no calls no talking to people. but all you have to do is say no matter about the way you fell for me i still love yo and that coming from my heart.
2006-11-20 20:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mother is treating you this way? If that happened to me I would detach myself from her and start my own holiday traditions. Sounds like your mother has a problem that she is hinding from you and others. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Take care of yourself and your family. When the time is right ask her straight out why she doesn't let you visit.
2006-11-20 20:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl,take this to dr.phil,or oprah and let them solve it.
She might be having depression problems or try mailing
her a letter saying how muh you care about her.
I hope that'll cheer her up.
Also try to send her a laugh out loud,
halarious card and that might cheer her up.
Hope these suggestions help.
-Ms.Sarah Lynn Nickels
2006-11-20 21:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make people be what you want them to be, and it only hurts yourself to expect them to be different. Best to cut your losses and focus on your son. Don't let her negative attitude outshine the joy of your child.
2006-11-20 20:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is suffering from depression. My mom did and I regret not spending more time with her. Drop by unannounced to bring her favorite dessert or meal.
2006-11-20 20:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
don't leave her maybe shes having a bad time , always keep in Ur mind that shes the one who raised you and I'm sure she love you so much .. be patient
2006-11-20 20:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by mimi ^____^ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just do your own thing, eventually she'll come around unless she has a big stick up her a**, in which case I wouldnt want her around anyway.
2006-11-20 20:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by thephoneguy1234 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋