the world shouts for equality but what about unconscious sexism?

Question

such as all these stuff men should do for women. men are supposed to open doors for women, let the go first, pay for them etc etc.

Answer 1

Its what a proper gentleman does.

Answer 2

It is all about the differences between men and women. Traditional chivalry is both about lessening the differences of the sexes as well as celebrating them. That is why Men open doors for Women. That very act lessens the differences as well as celebrates them. Some doors are heavy. I'm not saying that Women are too weak, but why have her open the door when someone who can open it easier is right there? It also shows respect to one another. The guy shows the girl that she is a treasure and should be looked after. And the girl by going through the door without putting her hand on the door-handle shows that she trusts him, respects his desire to be a gentleman, and appreciates his honor.

Men make more money than women. That's why we pay. Again, it equalizes, and yet again, it celebrates our roles: the guy being the provider and the woman being the treasure. (Little side note. Men - on average - make more money than women because more men take jobs that pay more money. Women take more jobs that make less money - caregivers. But in an equal situation they will both make about the same amount of money. The man might still have a slight advantage, but that is largely because he IS the provider and he pays for everything.)

Men walk faster than women. We are bigger, have larger lungs and hearts, bigger muscles. So when we walk with a woman, we walk at her speed.

While walking on the street, a man should walk on the side towards the traffic. The old rules were in place because of the trash thrown out the windows was more likely to hit the man, but these days it's more about him more likely being the one to get hit by the cars. He's more agile and tougher, so he's more likely to survive. She is also more precious because she is the caregiver.

Answer 3

Right now the movement for gender equality is in its infancy. We want gender neutrality, we want equality, but the past centuries of human history have a huge impact on us.

People are confused. They say they want to have the world be equal, but then when they end up in, say, a dating relationship, it's easier to fall back on what people have been doing for a long time. Traditionally, the guy pays, so you'd expect the guy to pay. I personally buy things for my boy and open the door for anyone, but many people aren't quite up to that level yet.

There's also a lot of confusion now about what it means to be a man or a woman, so people are clinging to the more traditional notions while also trying to embrace the new ideas.

Answer 4

OK see you get people who say "That is the gentleman thing to do" this is the problem. We have femi-nazis who want equality but all the perks of being a women and what they need to realize is that all those perks were part of the social contract in exchange for women not being able to vote, own property, etc.

So two things need to happen.
1) Men need to understand women are equal and MAKE them pony up to it as well as pony up themselves like no more wage gaps or ceilings, and all this other crap that women have to go thru.
2) Women need to wake up and realize there are consequences to actions so if they want equality they have to ACT equal and stop expecting men to kiss their bum. Women also need to stop asking for different standards where they are not applicable (like firefighting..you meet the same specs or go find another job because a "female" standard could kill someone).

I am for equal rights..that's EQUAL not "I get the same stuff and all these others things too because I am so damn cute" and not "Look at me and my bushy beard so I get all the money and power and go make me breakfast"

Answer 5

In general, I agree with you. I don't necessarily agree, in principle, that the way to make up for discrimination against one group is by giving that group preferential treatment.

However, if you believe that sexism is dead in today's world, you are sorely mistaken.

Likewise, I think "equality" would be a shame if it meant we couldn't do nice things for others because we wanted to.