So heres the deal, i have this slight disability and have to wear plastic splints on my legs. Its no big deal and i always make a big joke about it. Also me disability makes me walk like a retard and stuff. But anyway my question is if you were a girl would this put u off dating me. Please be honest, i kind take it. I know alot of u will say if you have good personality etc, the girl would be ignorant etc. But i want an honest truthful assessment.
2006-11-20 11:52:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it really depends on the girl.some would never go for it and others wouldnt care at all. but the one u get is definitly a keeper-she'l have her heart in the right place...
EVERYONE has a problem or something they feel insecure abt,just we are able to hide it a little better so don't have to deal with the negativity publicly. you'v got a lot of courage to be able to joke about it and not let this get you down.
Just keep being confident about the things you do have because strength of character is a major turn on for any girl!
2006-11-20 12:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one because I personally am very vain. But I think if you're attractive and in good shape with a good personality that probably wouldn't be a huge deal. I do think however that your making jokes about your disability might make you appear insecure about it, which I'm sure in some way that you are. And that's totally understandable. But I think a man with confidence is very sexy....so quit the jokes, and if you need to offer up an explanation, then do so when it's appropriate.
I also think that a minor disability like you have will become less important to the opposite sex as you get older. We all become more in tough with our own flawed as we age.
2006-11-20 19:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by sassy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not find it a problem if your someone i like and care about i think i would get sick of the look at my disability jokes or if you used your disability for attention or a feel sorry for me thing.. in fact if i liked you i would make fun of you ..allot of girls would not date you out of fear what others may say and their own self centered ideas ..after all we all have a disability..so if its just girls like that approval you want well... obvious that's easy... if your looking for your partner, best friend ,soul mate, wife ...the person who will bring you most joy..children perhaps...someone who is always there for you ..life long. you will find ..she will find you ..don't waste PRECIOUS TIME on looking at your physical flaws and obsessing on missing ,twisted , not working body parts..even so called perfect people are totally deformed..i know what is like to be different and its not so bad or even noticed when i choose to not have it have all control.. my disability that is .. it does not rule me and my definition of me... you answered your own question and it is honest and truthful.. it is the person you are ..eg..personility and the kind of man you want to be.. the way you treat women..your friends.that will be in your life a part of it .. it is your choice and who you are.
2006-11-20 20:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by squawwitoutamule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think of yourself as disabled, then women will think it too. You shouldn't be making fun of yourself,.... you are being cruel to you and that is not good for your own sense of well-being.
It is important to be able to talk freely with people and hold up your end of the conversation.. but if you are ridiculing yourself, how would anyone else ever take you seriously.. and I mean girls....
If you are attractive in your mind and soul, other people will find you attractive.. stop with the bashing and turn on the charm....
2006-11-20 19:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your humor could be taken too far and might embarrass a potential partner. Plastic splints wouldn't put me off if I liked the rest of you. I think most girls are like that--we are not as superficial as men can be in that regard.
2006-11-20 19:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having a friendship with this girl first so she can see what kind of a person you are. If she likes how you are she will not care. Also, treat her like a princess always and make her the happiest girl on earth and you will see.
2006-11-20 20:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, its not what a person looks or walks like or what disabilities they have its whats inside. I like to kno guys from the inside out get to kno the real them b4 i see what they look like...and thats an honest answer
2006-11-20 19:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by bensbabygrl1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things like that shouldnt affect someone liking u. if they dont like u as u r then they arent worth it. when the right girl comes along, she wont care. if it was me & i fell for someone with a disabilty it would def not keep me from liking them. if ur a good guy, then u do have a chance. not everyone goes for the perfect looking guy, thats so shallow & doesnt matter when it comes down to it.
2006-11-20 19:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most girls these days are so shallow, id have to say yes. Sorry. But if they want to be that way, to hell with them, you dont need someone like that.
2006-11-20 19:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by bitchinchoppers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if you have a great personality who cares what you look like and how you walk
2006-11-20 19:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by kayia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋