If we have been dating almost 4years and are finally doing well when he and I are married next year when would be a good time to start trying to have a baby....my Older sister was with her husband for 6 years then they got married and then she got pregant and it is a year later and they have a happy way healthy baby boy! should we wait longer? im 24 and hes 26.
2006-11-20 11:49:28 · 11 answers · asked by Baby Girl due Sept 5th!!!!!!!!!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to enjoy each other for alittle while before having a baby. Even though you've dated for 4 yrs., marriage does make things different (even if you've lived together). Enjoy being together alone. Babies are a blessing but just get comfortable in your marriage first your young you have plenty of time for children.
2006-11-20 12:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by TatuGrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies are very personal to the people involved. Some like to have them right away. Some like to wait a few years. Some never want any. I've always liked the wait a few years idea. Here is why:
In the beginning you are getting use to one another as husband and wife. Even if you have lived together prior, something does change. It's mental thing I assure you. So you get use to each other, your quirks, your habits. When you feel your life is full without a child, but you want to bring a child into your already satisfying life, then would be the time to have one. An already full life just became even more full. I feel having children prior to having a full/satisfying life is doing yourself and your spouse a disservice, and in the end a disservice to the baby.
In the end you two will decide what is best for your marriage. Good luck.
2006-11-20 20:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were together for over 5 years before we got married, and two months later we conceived. Best wedding present in the world. We are 20 and 24.
2006-11-20 19:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by 1st time mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is ready at different times.What may be a good age for them may not for you.What other stress factors do you have in your life right now? Are they manageable enough to include caring for a baby?And what about finances? Are you ready financially for a baby?It is alot easier to manage if you are both ready and other stress factors are under control.
2006-11-20 19:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just when ever you feel ready if you both want a child when you get married then there is no time period that you shouldhave to wait...........good luck
2006-11-20 19:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by momma2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try when you are financially stable and can afford a baby. make sure it's a period in your life when you are ready because babies are a lot of work.
2006-11-20 19:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by just anotha chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea I think you should wait a little while after ur married to see how everythings working out
2006-11-20 19:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by christmasluver101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if your financially able to afford a baby then i say go for it.
No one can tell you when your ready. only you can tell weather are not your ready. god bless you and good luck
2006-11-20 19:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should talk to your fiance about it. both of you should be ready for children. they change lives a lot so you two need to be ready mentally and financially to be parents.
2006-11-20 19:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one on here is going to be able to tell you when it is right for you, although I would recommend giving yourself time to get settled
2006-11-20 19:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋