2006-11-20 11:33:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You know, i was always wondering the same thing. I really dont know. I was once told that it was always "tradition", but what if the brides parents cant afford it, then what? No wedding? Everyone needs help every now and then. I hope you took no offense to this answer. I always thought that if i didnt have enough money to pay for a wedding, i would elope. Quicker, cheaper, and easier. Then all you would have to do is get it blessed in the Church. Hope this Helps!
2006-11-20 11:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by RAW DIVA™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not anymore ... traditionally the wedding was thrown by the brides parents as a thank you for marrying their daughter, some cultures had "doweries" - money or items given to the grooms family for allowing the marriage ... women weren't highly regarded then and marriage was a way to up ones class and/or merge to great families.
Now it seems that weddings are really getting out of hand with costs and the cost should be shared by both families ... or just by the couple.
2006-11-20 20:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is becoming less and less common to see the traditional "who pays for what" going on for weddings. Usually the bride's family will give some money to the couple, and the groom's family will give some money to the couple...they can either make do with the money they were given or plan something more expensive and cover the difference.
2006-11-21 11:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It used to be tradition. But nowadays, anyone can pay for the wedding. My parents can't afford to pay for my wedding unless they win the lottery. (They just got married themselves.) So, they decided that they will give us all the same amount of money to help pay for our weddings. (we're 3 children).
If my boyfriends parents want to pay for the wedding, then be my guest!
Also, quite a lot of people do cash weddings now. So the couple pays for everything themselves, and they usually end up getting all their money back plus more from all the guests attending.
2006-11-21 11:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Originally - women were seen as property. A father "owned" his daughters. A groom's family would purchase the bride (dowry) and the wedding was considered to be the father's last responsibility before the women became the groom's.
Now that women are no longer veiwed as property, and many couples are waiting till they are older to get married - they often contribute in part of or all of the costs, and both familys often get involved.
2006-11-20 23:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly NOT!!!
Whoever wants to pay for the wedding pays for it.
If an uncle wants to throw in $50, Great.
If an aunt want to pay for the flowers, wonderful.
There are no rules as to who CAN pay for a wedding, the only rule is that NO ONE (other than the couple) HAS to pay.
2006-11-20 20:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its a matter of etiquette. Here are some wedding traditions and their origins:
http://www.weddingmag.com/traditions/origins.asp
My parents have 4 daughters... they cant afford to pay for all of our weddings so my sisters and I asked that pay for our bridal dress and we will pay for the rest.
2006-11-20 19:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have known of groom's parents that have helped out. I mean the "traditional proper etiquette" is that the bride's family does but it's really up to you.
2006-11-20 20:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lax Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. These days, most couples are working so they are paying for the wedding themselves!
2006-11-21 05:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went to a wedding in the summer{hindu-muslim} wedding
the girl's parents didn't agree as much as the guy's parents so they neva came to the wedding the guys parents paid for.
it was pretty good.
only the girl's bro and sis came to take the place of what their parents are supposed to do
2006-11-21 08:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋