They're commitment-phobes. You know, they won't commit to anything, you have a great time together, sex, whatever, but they come and go as they please? I think I may have one...
2006-11-20 11:09:19 · 17 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If they are getting away with it right now why should they stop. Depending on how you feel, give him an ultimatum and put your foot down. If you don't demand the respect of yourself then who says they have to give it. Let him know that you are worthy of respect and demand to be treated as though you have feelings... if they are worth the time of day they will treat you the way you need to be treated or more so deserve. Good luck!
2006-11-20 11:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. can't say I've dated someone like that. But i've got reason to believe my sister is like that. She comes and goes, and cheats. I'd say thats a pretty big commitment problem, but thats just my oppinion..
Im sorry if they turn out to be a commitment-phobe.. its ruff..
Good Luck..
-Jane The Duck
2006-11-20 19:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by A Duck Named Jane... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am dating someone like that we just broke up. Or at least I just broke up and he hasn't let me go yet. He can't commit to me completely. We have a great time together, but there is nothing else to it no other commitment in our lives other than sex
2006-11-20 19:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by anielle18 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with someone like that before. No matter how serious you may feel the relationship is, it still feels that they could go sleep with someone else one night when you're not together -- and think nothing of it.
Yeah, it's a pretty disconcerting situation.
I guess you just gotta enjoy the sex (and them ;) while they're around!
2006-11-20 19:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize and know that you deserve better. Why should you just be "one of them", HELL NO!!! You should be "THE ONE". Just be careful. Everyone can tell you to leave him/her and (S)he's not worth it but until you realize it for yourself or get sick of coming second (or third or fourth), you're not going to let him/her go.
On the other hand, if you only sleep with him/er and have feelings for him/her but "hang out" and "see" other people, then the two of you have an open relationship. I'm sure though, if you bring it up to him/her and tell him/her that you want an open relationship and as long as (S)he wants to see other people you do too, (s)he's not going to be very happy. Some people want their cake and to eat it too but don't want you to have yours.
2006-11-20 19:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing. The person is treating you as you allow yourself to be treated. Why should anyone commit to a person (responsibility) if he can get everything free? In my day, we used to call them "users"- now they have "commitment issues". Whatever.
2006-11-20 19:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats the point of dating them then? If you think you've got one, well then get rid of it, if you want commitment, you shouldnt be wasting your time on people like that
2006-11-20 19:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by iheartmj4ever 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you "have one" or are you one?
the relationship is what you make it to be. if the other person comes and goes as she/he pleases, then you have allowed the relationship to be very casual and non-committed.
set some rules and boundaries. if the other person doesn't like it, "Don't let the door hit you where the Lord split you!!"
people only do to you, what you allow them to do [think about it!]
2006-11-20 19:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by kevzvixen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump them like a hot potatoe!
2006-11-20 19:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Daphne M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are willin to recieve all the benefits that come with the relationship, then they should be willing to be in a relationship. if not cut them off, they dont deserve you.
2006-11-20 20:48:32 · answer #10 · answered by shoppingfreak05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋