my parents also have some issues with his character, his family's economic class, and the race thing. He and my parents had choice words for each other after our major car accident. He was driving my car and we wrecked. The officer gave him a brethalizer and he blew under. He had had 2 drinks. My father had some choice words for him while he was getting his head sewn back together in the emergency room. I had a busted lip. they had some choice words for him and he fired back. My parents believe that those of the younger generation should respect their elders no matter what. I believe that no matter what your age respect breeds respect. If you don't give it you won't get it. I feel that apologies from both sides are necessary. We have been together for almost three years I've known him for seven and we are planning to get married. I am currently a junior in college and he just graduated. My boyfriend has apologized but my parents won't and I am stuck in the middle.What do i do?
2006-11-20 11:05:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first of all, I believe that most fathers would jump down the throat of a man who just wrecked his daughters car and caused her to have to go to hospital. That's not a race thing. Had he been a black man I'm sure the same would have followed. However, there is an adjustment when one of your own(so to speak) dates a person of another race. They should have been over it by now, dating for three years, so perhaps it's not his color that's bugging them at all. Maybe it is just his character.I'm a white woman, whose sister married a black man, and I remember how hard it was on my parents for a while. We all realize that people are people and wouldn't it be such an easier world to live in if we didn't see race or color, but unfortunately it is the way it is, and how do we change ones opinion? We don't. We just have to take a hold of our lives, and do what is absolutely best for us. If this is the man you want to spend your life with, well, your parents can't stop your heart. And as for his family"economic class", that's their class, not his. He will establish a class of his own. Whether they're poor or rich, he's neither yet, that has yet to be established until he is on his own, with his own life. If you were only doing this to spite your parents, I'd say you're making a huge mistake. But if you truly love this man, your parents won't abandon you, at least not forever, follow your heart, and best wishes with your future plans.
2006-11-20 11:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do for the sake of the baby is tell your husband the truth about what happened and that you had no intentions of hurting him but at the same time, you were hurt over the fact that he cheated on you with another woman. Therefore, he should forgive you, if he's a real man and not hold this totally against you. If he doesn't than , he wasn't true from the beginning and than you and your baby must move on... As for the other guy, tell him to lay off for a while until the birth of your child because you are already under enough stress and you need to sort things out with your husband. You need to do what's best for you and the baby. Are you still in-love with your husband?
2016-03-12 20:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think even if he was black, your parents would be mad at him for the accident--they were scared for you, you trusted him, and then (to them) could have had you killed. I know my parents would argue the daylights out of him and start giving me talks on why I shouldn't see him anymore.
As for the race thing, well... Right now I am interested in a guy who is from India ( I'm white). I know my parents will raise their eyebrows if we start dating, but I know what my grandparents will do--ouch! But, I thought, if he can't take it, then he may not be worth it--he's going out with you, not them. Of course, you'll hear the same things over and over again on why you should dump him, and he'll hear it whenever he sees them. You and your BF just need to talk about the whole thing. If he is willing to take the racial things but not say anything back, and if you can bear with it yourself w/o having a breakdown with the stress, go for it.
Others have done it, you're doing it, you won't be the last.
Who do you want to marry? Your parents ideolody or the guy you love? As it says in the Bible somewhere, something about the man leaves his family and clings to his wife, and his wife shall leave her family and cling to her husband? If you want you can see a counsler about it and speak to inter-racial couples who have survived through it. All you need is a little bit of guts. If you don't, you may hate yourself for the rest of you life...
2006-11-20 12:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just drop it. your parents are not going to change. nobody was baddly hurt, just next time make sure you take a cab anyways.
2006-11-20 11:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may just have to continue your relationship without your family
2006-11-20 11:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about what anyone else thinks. love is your intuition....
2006-11-20 11:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by Claire N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live your own life, they have their own opinions but they also want the best for you.
2006-11-20 11:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋