I know what it means for my bf to ask "Are you comming over "today" yes he is inviting me to his house but I know every time he asks this its like asking "so we having sex today?" every time he asks tht i learned tht just means he wants to have sex
now he is strating to ask this question too much so i had to start giving exscuses why I cant come over and now we havnt had sex in about 2 mounths and now he is strating to ask when are we ever going to start having sex again. He is kinda starting to sound like hes using me...because he keeps asking instead of just wanting to chill What should i do?
2006-11-20 11:04:09 · 40 answers · asked by becca . 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you love him, but don't want to have sex with him every single solitary day. tell him if you are nothing more than sex to him then you'll just be moving on the a better man that knows how to treat you like you are more than a piece a of tail
sorry to be so blunt and mean but I am dealing with a similar issue.
2006-11-20 11:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So wait, let me get this straight: Your boyfriend wants to have sex with you, so you stop having sex with him, and now you're upset that he's upset, and you're asking the internet for the solution to this problem.
Did I get that about right?
Guys enjoy sex, but if all he wanted was sex he could just hit up a club and find a piece and probably not even have to pay for dinner. He's asking you because he prefers to have sex with you.
Furthermore, you gave no indication that sex was the ONLY thing he ever wanted to do with you, so it really doesn't sound like he's using you. He's going to want sex as long as you're in a relationship with him. If you DON'T want that, then I strongly suggest you break it off.
If you don't mind sex and the only thing about him that bothers you is that he keeps asking for it, just let him know what you're feeling - I cannot stress that enough. Don't drop hints. Tell him flat out that you feel like he's using you for sex.
2006-11-20 11:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by maradonxp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's "using you" it's probably because he is.. you shouldn't put up with that type of B.S. and for all the men out there that say she should give it up cuz she's his gf.. get a life! What you need to do is make him respect you, set him straight and let him know you're feeling used, and if doesn't have much to say or anything better to o with you other than sex, the best thing to do is move on. Don't let this jerk pull you by a string.. and don't stand for a booty call either, you know you're better than that!! *hugz*
2006-11-20 11:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by ☆Karma☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, are you in a mature adult realtionship or are you teenagers? If you are young, and you obviously don't want to be in this type of relationship with so much pressure to have sex, then break it off. Plenty of time for sex in the rest of your life.
If you are an adult, then you probably need to think about why you don't want to have sex with this man. Sex can be the vehicle that all the bad feelings are conveyed within. You don't sound too happy, committed or really invested in this, so move on.
2006-11-20 11:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by knowledgeisgood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Becca, sounds like he's using you a bit. What about asking you, hey wanna go do something fun today, or do something together other than sleep together?
Sounds like he doesn't need you as his best friend, or lover, rather he's treating you like a booty call.
Maybe you should have a D&M about your relationship, talk to him about his constant badgering for sex, and tell him what you need from him. If he can change then fantastic, I wish you both the best of luck, if not, maybe you should really seriously consider moving on.
Love is more than just sex.
2006-11-20 11:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by exaluva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, like you said, he is using you as a sex object to satisfy his sexual needs. If you feel not happy with this kind of treatment, why not tell the guy what's on your mind rather than finding excuses to avoid him. If he really loves you, he will understand sex is not everything in a relationship. If the guy don't respect you, just tell him to get someone else who can provide him sex not love. Dump the useless guy if you feel he is using you rather than loving you. Get a guy who really loves you not because of the sex service that you can provide but your attention & care you can give.
2006-11-20 11:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how u feel. Tell him u feel everytime u want me to come over u just want to have sex with me and not spend time with me the person. You still need to think was the relationship always like this? If it was what has changed why don't u want to have sex anymore or do u want something more meaningful than what he is willing to offer.
2006-11-20 11:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by anielle18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who shares the same interest as you do. There are some men out there who like to chill. don't lower your standards or boundaries for a man he'll lose all respect for you and even more important it reflects how you feel about yourself. Stand your ground your worth it. If he can't understand that then he dont respect you and you dont need him.
2006-11-20 11:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he asks you to come over say how about instead we go out movie whatever and then have fun not sex fool around some ok but not sex explain that if he wants you he has to pay the green fees to tee off on you .
2006-11-20 11:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that is going throught the same thing with her bf. She just told him straight up.
And I quote:
"If we can't have a day where we just chill, then we can have a day of sex." That is what she told him. They are better than ever. Good luck!
2006-11-20 11:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋