Me and my boyfrien have been together for like two weeks..... ONly guys can answer this question?

Question

Well we talk allot and i love talking to him but sometime i dont how are if he even feels the same. Like i can call him and he just wants me to ask all the questions its never 5050 i ask him how his day was and he gives me one sentence answers maybe i am being too agressive and i want him to jump in and tell me about himself but i need to know are all guys like this are is it just my boyfriend. When i say like this i mean distant i really need help

and please no rude people you guys are really getting on my nurves

Answer 1

This is classic, guys don't understand emotions, or how to express them, When you say, "Hey ***** how are you feeling" usually he just says, "fine" or "cool" those aren't emotions, or you want to talk to him so you ask "how was your day" and he says, "I don't know cool" your looking for something deeper most women are, men just don't understand how to express themselves, remember men are physical and women are emotional, Your boyfriend is very typical. I run classes to teach teen men how to deal with emotions, if he's in N.Cal have him look me up, but more than likely your in a uphill battle, just watch the way to you talk to him, next time he says "fine, or cool" tell him, those aren't emotions, and explain to him a few emotions, and get him to think, but you really have to say it in a nice way or he will think your attacking him. one think you can do that works really nice, is tell him that you love to receive letters from him, and you want a nice letter form him, every day for the next two weeks, men can write about how they feel in letters, but getting them to verbally express it is a whole other ball game, now the second thing might be that your just not meant to be, and he's distancing him self from you., but stick in there for now.
God Bless

Answer 2

Some people are better at asking questions than answering them.

Some people are also rather private or see their lives as uneventful and uninteresting.

How was your day?

Sometimes you just give "Fine." as an answer because "Well, I had to change the toner in the copier and my sister called to talk about whether that recipe you make every Thanksgiving has Basil or Oregano as the secret ingredient." seems if not inconsequential then rather boring to talk about.

Try finding areas that he is interested in to ask questions of. Perhaps a light switch will go off. Ask him to explain something that he likes but you don't understand.

As for your question "are all guys like this" well, are all women like you? My guess (and experience) is no, but what do I know? While I would concede that in general guys tend to be more of the one word answer types, especially if they don't want to talk about something, there are guys out there who love talking about their day and monopolize all the answer time.

I think it's important for you to understand that short answers do not necessarily mean that he is being distant with you. Sometimes telling a story about your day is more excruciating than just saying "It was good." As I said, try finding something in common that you both are interested in. For instance, if he thinks Brad Pitt was dreamy and you thought Brad Pitt was Dreamy you could compare notes on how much dreamier Brad Pitt is than Johnny Depp. Since that isn't going to happen (unless I am very surprised), you might try music, movies or sports.

Answer 3

Maybe he is having problems communicating, it's only been two weeks. Most guys are like that in the starting, give him a chance to call you give him some time, hang out with him more maybe he talks more in person than on the phone.

Answer 4

You should have asked a woman this question, not a girl but a woman. So I'll answer for you. Most men are not as talkative as we are.The number one complaint of women of all ages is that my man doesn't talk to me, he doesn't open up enough. It's just not their nature. Pay attention to his eyes though, they'll tell you how he feels, his eyes are truly the window to his sole.

By the way you wanna know how to hold on to the fella, don't talk so much.

Answer 5

take it easy. madame -- if i can call you that way. we are here to help u...sure there might be a couple of answers off the way..but that is what life is about -- it is not a straight line. back to your question and problematic..boy friend. he sounds OK. he loOKs OK. he breathes OK. conclusion --he must be OK. stick around and just do not expect -- go blank when you meet, if there are no expectation then there are no waiting for a specific reaction. if nothing happens..go and see a movie...no talk...-- the movie dictates...afterwards..have a hot soup/coffee ok too...too hot you can not talk. and end the evening...voila..try a few times like that -- either you will accept him "as is" or "return with no refund/or exchange." hope it helps.

Answer 6

Not all guys are like that, however it is my opinion that without communication a relationship cannot survive. In most cases like this the more you push him to open up the more distant he will become, it would probably be better to find someone you can talk to more easily.

Answer 7

Many guys (almost said all) are like that. That is one difference between males and females. It may never be 50/50, but that is the sacrifice you mkae if ya really like him, ya know? There are certainly things he does not like about you that he accepts and things you dislike about him, but accept.
Guess what I am trying to say is people are differetn. The question is - are you willing to put up with it?
Good luck!

Answer 8

You might just want to lay off his back for a couple days and try talking to him and make small "steps" at a time. Try to get him to become more interested in you and that might work as well.

Answer 9

A lot of guys do not like to share their feelings or talk about themselves, they would rather hear about you. Try to gently let him know you would like him to share more.
Also, when he does share, don't get mad, hurt, etc. about what he says or he may withhold. Let him know you care and are interested in him and give him your full attention.

Answer 10

i kind of do that to my girlfriends. its almost a bad habbit for a guy because most girls ONLY talk about themselves. so guys are just used to asking questions about you you and you. and mabey you dont relize that your talking more then you think. and set him up like mabey tell a bunch of stories one is bound to trigger him into one. good luck.