I am dating a guy and we are about 16 years apart in age. We get along great and share a lot of interest. He does all these nice things for me, but our sex life is horrible. I mean he doesn't have to much sex. I am not a sex-o-holic by all means. It's just rarely do we have sex. We like to cuddle, and kiss me places he shouldn't, and wrestle and get me all worked up. Then all the sudden he is sleepy and wants to go to bed. Whats up w/ this? Should I just stop doing all the other stuff since it's getting me nowhere, but frusterated.
2006-11-20 10:42:18 · 7 answers · asked by elj36912 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats a bit of a tough one...a bit backwards in some aspects.
Seems you have the foreplay...and none of the game play...which is usually the other way around.
Does he have some type of problem with his function? (not to be crass) Possibly fearful of his performance? Or is it fine when he does follow thru?
I wouldn't stop all of the other stuff...perhaps try some extra persuasion when he starts to pull the sleepy routine. (that part just really throws me) Not typical guy behavior at all.
After all of that fun activity I would be ready to GO GO GO!
If he enjoys the other stuff and is a sentimental person at all...ask him? Tell him it concerns you and how it makes you feel. Perhaps he will open up and let you know.
To me it sounds like it may be a functional problem (NOTHING to do with you). I am assuming that he is the OLDER of you two. If it is functional...there have Big Blue for that now. :o)
If he is the younger...than I am at a complete loss.
One of God's tricks he played on us is giving a woman a peek sex drive in her mid-30's and a man the best of his drive in those pubescent teen years when we are men trapped in the bodies of boys. (age wise anyway)
2006-11-20 10:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by Randal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what! your having fun and not argueing....you get along great.the sex part of the relationship can be worked on....a little at a time. age is a number.....not a disability. part of being in a relationship is teaching and learning ........some things need more work in a relationship than others ....a little more effort and patience....but in the end itll be worth it......teach him how to make love to you! the way u love it!......a little at a time...and once hes taught....hell be custom made 4 you! get the picture? have fun.
2006-11-20 10:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm. this is a hard one. it could be that hes playing mind games with you.. and in that case stop cuddling with him and all that stuff alltogether and within a couple of days he'll have u slammed up against the wall :). if not, talk to him. maybe he's embarassed about his performance in the bedroom or maybe he just really doesnt like sex. good luck!
2006-11-20 10:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by piratelove22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 years apart I assume he is the older one sounds like he should start taking old fart vitamins and some viagra you know never mind dump him find someone you can count on for a good time
2006-11-20 10:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Fergie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most guys do..and then there's guys like NCC. Who just want OSM.
2006-11-20 10:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by Brianna T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look he getting older they can't keep it up the way they used to get him some viagra and he will be ready.
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2006-11-20 10:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by blueangl0330 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u like sex or what dude
2006-11-20 10:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋