my bf snuck out of the house at 1 am , i went looking for him at the bars, and found him sitting alone with a girl drinking and talking together, is that cheating? when i confronted him he was speachless and never came with me home, he stayed at the bar with her and didnt come home till 3 am. is it cheating? i think so but he says no. i dont do things like that to him and never will.
2006-11-20 10:36:12 · 28 answers · asked by jvcj2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's not yourself in the head and wonder why you have a head ache. YES he is clearly looking for something else from someone else. The fact that he has to "sneak out" is clue #1, he stayed at the bar even when you confronted him is clue #2, he stayed at the bar to be with her and didn't return home until 3 am is clue #3 and last but not least, he has absolutely no regard for your feelings is your final clue but should have been your first clue that he sucks.
2006-11-20 10:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key factor here is that he snuck out. When someone feels the need to sneak around, that means that they have something to hide. Your boyfriend clearly thought that you would have reason to consider his behaviour suspicious, which means he was probably flirting with that girl at the bar, and wasn't just seeking an innocent friendship. I think that you should ask your boyfriend what he was talking about with the girl at the bar, and ask him why, if his intentions were REALLY pure, did he feel the need to hide his bar excursion from you. Maybe you can still work this out, and agree to be honest with each other in the future.
2006-11-20 10:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ella Minnow Pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether its cheating or not...it's wrong.
1. he snuck out
2. he ended up at a bar at 1 am
3. With another girl
4. He doesn't think there's anything wrong with that.
5. He stayed with her, instead of coming home with you.
PLEASE please decide if this is the person you really want to be with..to trust your heart and your future too. You need to remember...even if HE thinks he did nothing wrong..it hurt you and confused you, and there is a guy out there for you that would NOT make you feel this way.
Strong healthy relationships are a lot of work as it is...adding stuff like this in the mix...dishonesty, sneaking around and the lack of respect he showed by staying there with her should be enough to convince you that you deserve better. If you choose to stay with him, please insist he show you more respect.
xoxoxox
2006-11-20 10:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Shakira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the girl? That would drive me nuts, and if my boyfriend ever did that to me, we wouldn't be together anymore. I would talk to him about it, but if he does it again, that may mean that he's looking for something emotional or physical from someone else. There's definately something wrong with him sneaking away. If he didn't think it was a big deal, he would have just told you about it. If he doesn't quit, move on cause you're better than that. Good Luck!! :)
2006-11-20 10:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by Christy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitly fishy. I wouldn't immediatly accuse him, but honestly if it were me I would leave him... fast. Mistake #1) SNEAKING out of the house, obvioulsy there was something he was trying to hide. Mistake #2) Going to the bar. If he were just looking to get drunk, he would have just gone to the store or something right? He was looking for trouble by going to the bar. Mistake #3) He didn't come home with you after drinking with some random girl.
Hate to break it to you, but all signs point to yes, not that I would immediatly assume that, but just for his actions I wouldn't give him one more second of my life.
Good Luck! Sorry that happened.
2006-11-20 10:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lexie E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Maybe he doesnt sleep with the woman, but he has been dishonest to sneak out from the house & met her without telling you. My point is, he even went speechless when you found out.
He has break your trust, thats what happen.
Dump him, you deserve better. Show him that you can live without him & he is not the centre of the world. There are plenty more guys there; with the good ones too outside, trust me.
2006-11-20 10:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun let him go! He is sneaking out behind your back to meet with another girl! It's obvious they are catching up with each other to be together - it is not cheating if he doesn't kiss her but it he probably has kissed her when you're not there! Especially when he didn't come home with you!
Wake up chick... This guy is trying to be with someone else, & probably already is!
2006-11-20 10:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by liss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sneaking around and seeing a girl could be considered cheating, but it is usually used to signify that ones partner has slept with someone else. However if he sneaked out to see this girl he is most likely sleeping with her. Dump him and find someone who will treat you right.
2006-11-20 10:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't cheating already, he is probably about to. Regardless, it is disrespectful to you. He should only meet with people you would approve of. His actions should reflect your importance in his life. They don't. It will only get worse over time. Move on to someone else who will treat you right. Don't accept any less. You deserve a relationship that gives you peace in your life. Good luck!
2006-11-20 10:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes. The guy shouldn't just sneak out, go to a bar, hang with a girl and probably get drunk. I would say definitely yes.
2006-11-20 10:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by The Pizzaman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋