well me and my boyfriend have been together for 11months. Everything is great except he's really jealous, and at night sometime he dreams about her oh and did i mention he has a baby with her and sometimes it think if she asked him back he would leave me for her, he says he will not but i dont know...... plz help
2006-11-20 10:26:06 · 10 answers · asked by Lady_K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that all guys dream about women. That is actually normal. You cannot control dreams and it doesn't mean that they want them back. He will always be linked to her through the baby.
Jelousy is another thing. I had a jelous boyfriend. If he was over to my apartment and someone was knocking on my door (I never answer the door if I don't know who it is) and I wouldn't let him answer it, he would say I was having an affair with whomever was on the other side of the door. He would also pick up my other phone to see who I was talking to. Jelousy is not a good thing when it gets that far.
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As Adults
When we fall in love as an adult, the style of attachment formed as an infant influences how we treat our romantic partners.
People who formed a secure attachment to their caregivers tend to form a secure attachment to the person they love.
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There is more on the website about healthy relationships. I would suggest counceling if his jelousy gets out of hand and you want to try to make it work. I was with my guy for over a year. It didn't work out. I am really glad I got out of the relationship. I didn't realize how bad I really felt until after I was out. I had headaches because at night I would grind my teeth because of the stress I was in. I wish the best for you.
2006-11-20 10:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will he is only moving on because she has his baby she will be around forever.Men have this thing in their mind that if something bothers them they will try to forget about it and get it out their mind. maybe their breakup wasn't that bad.also he may be jealous because he is guilty If he hated her he wouldnt dream about her. What are the dreams about good or bad . When we have good dreams we want it and its somewhat of a fantasy when its bad we have a fear he isnt afraid so he may want her. Also 11 months isnt too much of a time. I have a friend now who went through that believe me his current girlfriend became his ex and she pregnant alone.
2006-11-20 10:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by maqwa2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand how is he jealous when he dreams about his baby momma, if he does this maybe he is still with her on the side or he wants to be with her. Either way if you dont trust him leave him alone because she will always be in his life with or without you. If you do trust him and nothing strange goes on then leave it alone and dont worry about her because you may have something that she wants . If he is a good guy keep him dont let him go.
2006-11-20 10:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by dejohn m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't be able to "get" her to open as a lot as you. she will be able to open up if she feels smooth - yet sounds to me like you adult adult males have some topics that are complicating your courting. the advice i might want to provide is - don't be a million) too determined, or 2) too pushy. purely be your self, have a very good time consisting of her - yet don't be throughout her in besides. ok, she has this loopy idea that you purely favor her for sex; nicely, do not elevate sex in any respect, save your palms to your self, and income from the verbal substitute. i'm not extremely confident what her issue is - i do not get it how can a lady be with someone for 2 years, and be confident that this human being is purely consisting of her because of sex; it really is purely stupid. It sounds to me like she, herself, doesn't recognize what she needs - and it will be type of a volatile concern for you, as you may want to get your heart damaged very actual. purely be careful, ok. solid success.
2016-11-29 07:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he is dreaming of her and not you? If he is dreaming of her move on. You can find someone that REALLY cares about you.
2006-11-20 10:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would be another of his EX-Girlfriends too! Sooner the better!
2006-11-20 10:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to relax dreams are not reality
they are ex's for a reason
2006-11-20 10:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is E-Z just dump him. Tell him its either you or his kid and of coarse he going to pick his kid. I know that is a cruel q? but you got to do it
2006-11-20 10:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you bathed regularly, you woudn't have this kind of a problem
2006-11-20 10:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you guys need counseling...not saying that to be rude or sarcastic.
2006-11-20 10:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by karen_samoht 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋