my older brother is always going out to clubs and drinking and smoking and scre##%% girls. i feel really bad for these girls and tried to tell him it was wrong, but he beat me up. i dont know what i should do. im worried about him because hes my brother and im worried about the girls. what do i do?
2006-11-20 10:22:12 · 9 answers · asked by Colin Night 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's so very kind of you to care for your brother so much, I really admire that. You also write like you have been raised properly, so I'm thinking your brother has been raised the same way. Some young men go through some really tough stages and really have to learn their own lessons. Hopefully he will stop smoking and drinking but in the meantime stop telling him what to do it will only drive him away from you more. Why not try this: most people feel more regret in the morning (usually when they're tired or hungover) so instead of bickering at him one morning when your both alone and he's feeling tired and hungover just tell him you miss him as the brother he used to be and that you love him then ask him to be safe (ie no drinking and driving and save sex). Then leave him alone to think. Brothers change I have to sons and they had some of these issues and they are closer than ever so believe when I tell you don't judge him, let him know quietly that you miss the way he was and that you love him no matter what. Then he has to do the thinking. Now about the girls your'e feeling so badly for, stop it, most girls know what they are getting into and it really is between your brother and them. BUT if he is physically abusing them thats a different story, go to your parents they must deal with that sort of behavior. But if he's just sowing his wild oats and drinking to much offer to drive him somewhere so he'll be safe. There isn't much you can do until he comes out of this phase on his own. I feel bad for you it can make a person feel helpless. Good luck.
2006-11-20 10:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Pearl N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you perhaps speak to your father, or one of his good friends and explain how worried you are about his behaviour. Perhaps he is down and depressed due to something recent that has happened to him and he is taking it out on the drink, clubs. Why not suggest the two of you going out for a bite to eat or dinner and then have a chat and explain you are really worried about him.
2006-11-20 18:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by North London Lady! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could talk to your parents but that might cause more problems between you and him. You may just have to let him make his own mistakes and hopefully he will learn from them. What goes around usually comes back around to bite you in the a**!
2006-11-20 18:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gawd! u´re such a great guy! i really admire u:)
listen, let ur older brother be and when u´re his age, u´ll be the guy that the girls will want and truely love...u´ll be the one who will be able to live a good and happy life and find a beautiful nice and loving girl who will always love u:)
U ROCK!
XAO:D
2006-11-20 18:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there is really nothing that you can do. It's nice to be concerned but he's just going through a faze. It's not like the girls HAVE to sleep with him anyways, it is their choice, apparently they want to, so you don't need to protect them. Nice of you to be concerned though!
2006-11-20 18:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lexie E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're brother is older than you so he isn't going to listen to anyone. Just let him figure it out.
2006-11-20 18:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sissy Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, he is a grown man and let him deal with his own issues.
second... he beat you up? you should talk to someone about this.(most likely your brother)
also don't worry about the girls. they choose to have sex with them. unless he forces them too, in that case report him
2006-11-20 18:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by you_only_live_once 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
QUIT HATIN'.....you only live once, maybe you should try to loosen up some...if it aint hurting him and it aint obsessive then who is it hurting besides his nosey jeolous stuck up little pest of a brother.
2006-11-20 18:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sistamoon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your parents
2006-11-20 18:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by JS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋