How Do I Deal With My Over-Bearing Grandma Without Getting Hurt?

Question

My grandma, love her very much, is very sweet yet can be very negative, ever since I was young. My wife loves being around her too, but its hard for her to stand up to her. I have tried for years tto keep my cool with her, so instead of wasting time on subjects she will not listen to, I jut go an do chores for her, and avoid conflicts. When she can't spill her negativitt and forced suggestions on me, she does it to my wife, who just sits and shakes her head and asks me what to do. SO, How Do I Deal With My Over-Bearing Grandma Without Getting Hurt?

Answer 1

Tell grandma to relax and let someone else chew up the air for a while. She's your grandma, she's older and deserves courtesy, but she isn't made of glass so she won't break and she knows better than anyone when she's overstepping the boundaries, unless of course, she's been running amok for so long she doesn't recognize them anymore. In which case, point them out. Say to her "This is my wife, she is here because she enjoys your company, I am going to do some chores for you and I expect to get her back in the same cheerful mood I am leaving her with you. Got it Grandma?" and then smile, wink or kiss her on the top of the head or the cheek, so that she knows you love her, but that you aren't letting her blacken you or your wife's mood. Give your wife a flag to waive if you have to, but bring grandma down to earth once in a while. Leave if you have to, in the middle of your chores or your wife's visit, if she doesn't heed your warning.

Expect from your grandma the same as you would from anyone else.

Everybody loves to run amok, older people, young people, we all do what we want until someone tells us no. Say no.

Answer 2

You have to remember grandma is getting older and is set in her ways just sit back and dont let it bother you guys she wont be around forever when she is gone you will miss those talks just like I miss my grandmother who was very stubborn but has lived a life you and I could never do, No cell phones,some cases no inside plumbing, and all the other modern stuff just remember granny knows best even if you know it is wrong cherish the time you have with her

Answer 3

My grandmother is the same way its hard to talk to her or be around her. Either Im too fat too skinny doing too much or not doing enough. With her, its her way or your not doing it right. I think you should just take everything she says with a grain of salt and try not to get mad. I dont think she can change if she has been that way her whole life.