is more interested the more I push her away? I have been so good to this girl, and she just sort of swings back and forth between the relationship, sometimes hot, sometimes cold. The harder I tried to get her on "full-time" the further she got. Now I have been distancing MYSELF and it's like I finally have her attention and a little more respect. WTF? Games...so silly.
2006-11-20 10:03:38 · 19 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I couldn't say for certain. But I personally have a forbidden fruit complex. Things I attain too easily don't seem worth as much. ( I'm not necessarily speaking about men, just things in general. No objectifying here). But that's just the way life seems to be. The the reward is sweeter when you kinda have to work for it.
2006-11-20 10:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by §чﺀﺀчβчﻯ†a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of girls like the thrill of the chase more than they like relationships in general. Is your girl a drama queen? If so, she probably really craves the drama of all the games, especially when you play along by not giving her any attention. I know it's strange. It probably means she's not mature enough yet to settle down into a regular relationship. She probably needs more time to flirt and chase with a wide range of guys. You won't be able to change her personality. Maybe you should go looking for a person who is more interested in the actual relationship side of things.
2006-11-20 18:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she is playing games or her mood swing is really bizzare. It happenned to one of my guy friend too; his ex gf's mood was so weird. Sit down with her over nice& quiet dinner, get a bottle of wine or just anything to make you both feel relax- and talk to her. Tell her that you are not happy& ask her what is going on. Remember, dont get defensive. Ask her if you did something that annoy her.
If nothing change afterwards, then ask yourself-Is she going to make you happy in the long term.
All the best-hugs
2006-11-20 18:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think we men make ourselves emotionally unavailable? Some women are more attracted when they have to work for the relationship.
My advice: This doesn't sound like a long term relationship for you, so I'd take her on the ride she wants. Go on and off until things fall apart...hopefully you'll have some great memories to last. I smell something freaky cooking!
2006-11-20 18:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by bardstale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is playing these games with you, it is up to you and only you to shut her off. Like a dog she thinks she has you on a leash and she can get you to do what she wants and accept her no matter what and that is the kind of person that will hurt you. If you are bothered by her you should have already said goodbye but no one can make your decisions. GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-20 18:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Waiting for Madelyn :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can i say it is dumb, maybe you were coming on too strong so she backed off, she's now wondering what happened you have put some distance in between, ask her what she wants, she can't be playing these games its stupid and stressing you out.
2006-11-20 18:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you know what? You should go with another girl. Brake up with her, if a girl treats you badley, there is no reason why you should still be with her. If you TRULEY do want to be with her, go for it. but, just warn your self that if it gets ugly, take your chances, and leave her, not in the dust, but with another guy. Time to move on.
2006-11-20 18:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by minnie_mouse♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, there is a saying that goes: You want what u cant have? Its true! Everytime u know u cant have something, u want it. Thats whats going on with her. Keep it up and in no time she will be yours full time and appreciate u
2006-11-20 18:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really is so typical. It's not as much about games as it is the game itself. Cat and mouse, the chase. No one wants to be chased, they want to do the chasing. It's more of a challenge that way.
2006-11-20 18:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by Arte Salon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to find a new woman. Life is too short
2006-11-20 18:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by keith s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋