Ok, my boyfriend is 17 and I am 14. There was this really hot guy at this basketball game and he started talking to me and I really liked him but he didn't know I was pregnant cause Im only 3 months. He liked me 2 and kissed me while we were talking on this bench. I got really nervous cause my boyfriend was the one who brought me to the game but was hanging out with his friends so didn't notice I had wandered off with this guy. This guy is actually more around my age, 15, so I thought our reltionship would be more compatable but I feel really bad for making out with this guy cause Im pregnant and I should be with my boyfriend cause he supports my pregnancy and I'm actually moving into an apartment with him in 2 months well we are supose to so I am really nervous about wat I shoul do. Should I stay with my boyfriend cause I really love him and were having a baby or should I start dating this new guy cause he's more around my age and I like him too but don't know him enough for love?HELP
2006-11-20 09:53:17 · 35 answers · asked by P!ATD GIRL! Luvn Brendon Urie! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO!!!! you should not move in with your boyfriend!!! you should not date the other boy. please listen to what i am saying! if you havent told your parents you are pregnant you need to. you also are going to need thier help later on in your pregnancy, so STAY AT HOME!!!!!!!! the best thing you can do for you and your baby is to finish school. FINISH SCHOOL!!!! you did an adult act and now you are in an adult situation. act like an adult. you are bringing a life into the world, and you are its mother. you dont have time right now for boyfriends. tell your parents, dont leave home right now, and please finish school!!!!!!
2006-11-20 10:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Matt E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All i have to say is...if you really "love" the father of your baby, you'd better stick with him. At the end of the day it's your decision but, not many guys will actually support the pregnancy like he does. Don't ruin a good thing because of a little thing with someone on the side, who could possibly just be around for a lil fun. You say you "love" your baby's father, that should be enough for you to stay with him for now, and see how things work out. He's not that much older than you, so I don't see the age thing playing a factor, and you can't be sure that the 15 year old will be there after the baby, sweety...Don't let anyone tell you that you should have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption. That's a choice YOU have to make. You're young, but only YOU know your situation and whether or not you have family, friends as a support system. You may have made a mistake by getting pregnant in the first place, but don't make another by messing around on this guy that possibly cares for you....you can make the best of the hand you were dealt, but you need to stop and really think about what you're doing...i wish you the best....
2006-11-20 09:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by smooches! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you have a lot to learn. Just because some guy is closer to your age doesn't mean you can go around pashing him when you have a baby on the way! Think about what you are doing. First of all you are really young, so I can understand the natural urge to want boys chasing you and giving in to them with quick kisses, but you have thrown yourself into the deep end of life by choosing to have a baby at your age. I say choosing as there were things you could have done to prevent it from happening and those things obviously didn't happen.
If you love your boyfriend, and he is kind and gentle and loving to you, stay with him. You have a bond with him now that will never leave either of you. However I can see the confusion in your life and nothing is certain. In the grand scheme of things 3 years difference in age is nothing. I know couples that have 8 to 10 years difference in age and that has never bothered them. Just be strong and mature and give the best possible start for your baby.
My suggestion to you is to stop tempting yourself by fooling around and for god's sake don't tell anyone about the kiss (if your boyfriend finds out your relationship will suffer - trust me what he doesn't know won't hurt him but don't let your conscience suffer by going too far, if a kiss was all then you should still be ok to forget about it). Do yourself a favour and give all your energy into loving the father of your child and being a good mother. Thats what you should be focussing on now, the family you are starting. Buy books, go to support groups and talk with your family on how to bring up a child, you need to learn a lot, motherhood is not a natural thing you just know how to do, you have to learn it.
Good luck to you young lady and congratulations on the pregnancy.
2006-11-20 10:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by geronemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought this question was going to be about having a baby with another guy than your boyfriend... apparently not.
Well, aside from ALL the bad stuff people are telling you, the good news is, if you have the baby, let's say you're going to be already 15 then? Your baby will grow up and be out of the house, and honestly, you CAN still start your life all over again when you are only 33, assuming your kid is going to college at age 18.
Please be wise. This is why Plan-B pills are now over-the-counter drugs, condoms are readily available, and it's not embrassing anymore to be on birth control. If you are smart, you can avoid pregnancy... oh and STD's too. The last thing you want is herpes or AIDS.
2006-11-20 10:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by ohsoconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you should go out with this new guy because if he knew that you were pregnant, do you think that he would want to take that responibity at 15? He might have not even kissed you if he knew you were pregnant. I think telling a 15 year old guy that you are pregnant will scare him away. You better be careful, because trust me once the baby is born, it's not going to be about you anymore.
2006-11-20 10:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by KAB128 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i've got been u, i does not tell him with reference to the toddler, i might only pass away him. u could make it on ur very own, and u do no longer prefer that kind of tension mutually as u're pregnant. bc if united statesa. w/ him, u're constantly gonna be stressing out bout no count number if he's mendacity or cheating or no longer. u do no longer prefer that loser. i've got found out from all my relationships that if somebody has a reason to assert my b/f is cheating, that's genuine. all of them denied it of course, yet i finished up looking out the actuality lol even then they denied it. so don't have faith something he says.
2016-10-04 04:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your baby's daddy, then stay with him. Tell him the truth though. He may leave you... he may not. Honesty is always the best policy. Leaving the one guy for the other just because he is closer to your age isn't a good basis for a relationship. Moving in with him may not be the best solution at this point as you are both very young.
2006-11-20 10:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by spazNfrog 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up very fast honey. You are about to be a mother. Don't disrespect your bf. Overall, I think you are too young to be having a baby. Young minded especially. You have no idea what is ahead of you. Is this other guy that is so hot going to be there in the middle of the night to help you with this baby? Is he going to help pay for diapers for a child that isn't his, is he gonna step up to the plate? Do you HONESTLY think that if he KNEW you were pregnant, he would want to be with you.
2006-11-20 10:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what love is, because u don't leave the one u love for the first hot guy u see. You need to stay with ur bf because he is takin for the mistake you both made ( and there is not alot of young guys out therewho would do what he is tryin to do). Next, that hot guy u like, is not gonna want u when he finds out ur pregnant. Good Luck, I Hope u Know what ur getting urself into. ( both of u can make it, but its not goin to b easy)
2006-11-20 10:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God. Your so young only fourteen that is to young to have a baby. I suggest you get help and focus on your health and stay in school you are going to need it in the long run. I will be praying for you to have a healthy baby. I can tell you are looking for love. Learn to love yourself first and love that baby. Boys will always be around. Focus on School.
2006-11-20 10:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by sassylady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋