Let me see if I can attempt to explain. Basically I don't want to be with a guy esp, not a younger guy or one my own age, because I am at University and have solid goals for grad school and a job. Not only that I don't do recreational use of anything drugs or alcohol which is really hard on my campus of EVERGREEEN. Seriously hard to meet people who are chill with that who don't think your conservative (I so am not politically or socially). But I also don't really want to be continuiously offered drinks either and I think that dating guys will distract me from what I really want which is to travel and work abroad with a non-profit. Is that normal or what??
2006-11-20 09:48:06 · 10 answers · asked by espressoaddict22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your decision to set high goals and ambitions for yourself is very admirable. I am very much the same way -- and I do not think it is "abnormal" at all. Just be careful not to rule out relationships altogether, though -- and I'm sure you won't. If something is meant to be .. It will happen. In the meantime -- pursue your dreams, and don't let anything hold you back!:)
2006-11-20 09:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
that's not abnormal at all. it may not be all that interesting to talk about, so you probably won't see many people talking about it on here, but many people decide to put off a love life to pursue a career or education.
just remember that one day, maybe sooner than you think, this decision could come back to bite you. human beings are by nature sexual animals. if you suppress your libido for too long, it can damage you psychologically.
if you look, you can find friends that support your lifestyle decisions without pressuring you to do anything you don't feel comfortable with.
in time, you should find a stable plateau in your career and find some more time for a personal life. just remember that dating gets more difficult in direct proportion to your age.
good luck!
2006-11-20 10:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Flint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally and completely normal. There is nothing wrong with wanting to pursue your dream and fulfill your own life before you try to fulfill someone else's. Do what you have to do for YOU now and when the time is right you can find that special someone. Take care of YOU first and the rest can come later. Congrats on having dreams and ambitions and kudos for not letting someone take them away from you. YOU GO GIRL!!!
2006-11-20 10:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by april_fay21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being in a relationship does harm a career and schooling
If you are serious about college and what you want to do with your life then wait till you are ready for a relationship.
You Will be older and have been able to pursue your education and some of your travels.
And you will have your career established.
2006-11-20 09:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap. I think I just found my long-lost sister.
It's not exactly a common practice to put yourself über alles, but it doesn't make you a sociopath or anything. You're absolutely right not to date. Your education and your job are the most important things in your life right now. Ambitious gals like you and me are a dying breed around here. Just ignore them completely, I say — they're not worth your precious time. (Also, at the risk of sounding overly partisan, good for you for being a liberal. Or are you a moderate? Either way . . . )
2006-11-20 10:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal.
I'm bit of the same. Uni is too busy this year to have a committed relationship. But it doesn't hurt to hang out with people, both boys and girls to have a social life. Other wise you go insane.
You'll know what the right moment comes. It hasn't got to me yet.
2006-11-20 09:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not abnormal you have dreams and that is what dshould come first concentrate on your goals when it's time to find love you will. i don't drink or smoke either and it's hard to find someone with the same beliefs as you but they are out there. stay true to who you are and never let anyone stray you from your goals.
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2006-11-20 09:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by blueangl0330 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you doing something for yourself. I think most people worry about making other people happy but why shouldnt you have the right to do all the things you want. Be selfish sometimes.
2006-11-20 09:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by jcklrsn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really isnt normal your done with highschool and you met new people right. You can meet a guy and fufill your goals. If you like guys then go out with one you like you cant just sit around and wait plus rumors might get spread about you and no guy would want to be with you if your like that. You cant help if the guy is nice and wants to buy you a drink if you dont drink then tell him that dosent mean you dont have to like someone. Later
2006-11-20 09:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
it's normal. there's nothing wrong with you. you want to accomplish everything in life before settling down. there's nothing wrong with that because in the end you wont feel like if you ever missed out on anything. each person is different. everyone sees life differently. just go out and do what you want after all it is your life!
2006-11-20 09:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by Purple Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋