My brother just text messaged me. He told me my 24 year old daughter wants to move out because of my alcoholism. He does not have any clue what he is talking about. My daughter was on percosets for 2 years and is finally clean. She spoke to him to get money to start on her own, it's her inheritance. She wrecked 2 cars, ruined many tires, stole money, abused her mother and now after a brief conversation with him he blames me. I am a responsible person who does not need the interference of a brother who critiques me afrom afar. I am not crucifying my daughter, I resent him inferring that it's my fault. Any advice on dealing with the doting brother ?
2006-11-20 09:39:30 · 3 answers · asked by brian333369 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would go to counciling with my daughter. i would tell my brother thank you for the call and explain what really has been going on.
2006-11-20 09:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by lynn r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your daughter and your brother (if possible) need some counseling. Its obvious there is friction between you two. She may be a handful but it could be a supreme cry for help or discipline. Your brother is just being a brother and looking out for his niece. If you have an alcoholism problem, which you didnt address in your rant about your daughter then open up about it. You both could be going through a tough time and now its time to talk. Things will get better just communicate.
2006-11-20 17:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk to him in person and stay calm, write him a letter. Tell him he does not have the true picture re your daughter and your relationship with her. Don't give him more details than you feel comfortable with, but just bascially tell him "thanks for your love and concern, but there are personal familly issues that make my relationship with Gracie more complilcated than you realize. I appreciate your concern, but since you cannot possibly know the "big picture", which cannot be fully explained at this time, your assessment of our situation is incomplete, and therefore incorrect. Pls take what she says to you with a grain of salt"...... Best regards, xxxxxx
And then forget about him. You've acknowledged his concern, but told him he bascially doesn't know the facts, they aren't his business at this time, and then just forget about him and focus on your daughter. Try not to resent him, since it will stress you and not accomplish anything productive.
2006-11-20 17:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋