I am in love with a man and am pregnant with his child. He loves me to, but hes not in love with me. He tries to make me believe that he is, but I know he isn't. He wants to see as many woman as he pleases and wants to do what he wants to do. I love him so much it hurts. I have placed myself in some fantasy life with him and none of its true. I dont feel he has any respect for me and i'm tired. What do you suggest? And how do I do it?
2006-11-20 09:37:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life is weird.
I was in a similar situation about 2 years ago. I loved that man with all my heart...and had a young toddler before I got with him. I wasted 2 years with him, and drug my son through hell with me. I hurt all the time, my son did too, and the ex hurt too. We fought about the most stupid things...at the top of our lungs...
But we had so much fun together at other times!
So, I prayed alot, made my will "God's" will, and married him. I knew better. I did it anyway, because I loved him and just knew I could make it work out.
It never got better. Maybe it even got worse...We started pushing with the yelling...and still having fun on occasion.
Finally, he had had enough. (I still hadn't). He came home from work one night and told me he didn't want it anymore. He didn't want me anymore. I cried and cried. I wanted to die. The only thing that kept me going was my son. He saved my life, because I couldn't stop thinking, what about my son?
So, I moved back home...something I vowed never to do. I had become that woman we all say we will never become.
now it is 2 years later, and our life, I, am so very changed...I finally realized that I am ok, without him...even better without him. I am happy again. My son-is happy again.
I am engaged. and 22 weeks pregnant...and happier than I could have ever possibly imagined. I have a life now that could only have come about by me and my ex not being together. I still feel that I have plenty of room to grow, and learn...and I now look forward to growth and change.
Please...follow your head on this one. You know what is best for your life...don't be fooled by your heart. If he isn't in love with you, he never will be...he can't change that...you can't change that. Love is special. Be patient, get happy with your self. Then God will send along the right guy...but only when He sees that you are ready.
Life can be so wonderful. Trust that.
2006-11-20 09:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest doing exactly what you speak of.. walk away one step at a time, one day at a time. It will hurt to look at your child and see them, but always know that you made your decision in the best interest of the child.
I had to make this same hard decision, and I know I wouldn't have it any other way now, but there were days when I had to sit on my hands to not call him and beg him take me back, but now that I have found someone who really does love me I know that my decision was the best I could have made. My daughter loves her step daddy more than anything and our "family" is even better then the fanstasy I had imagined with my ex.
So go with what's in your heart, and remember it's not always the nicest road that gets you where you need to go.
2006-11-20 18:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by bensbabe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have already made your decision. and it is the right one. Tell him that your relationship is over because it is not what you want. But before you so this you have to determine what kind of role you want him to have in your child's life. That needs to be discussed.
2006-11-20 17:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest walking away and seeing if he will follow you. If your gone and he really does love you then he will come running back. Maybe he needs time to be away from you and then realize he really does need you
2006-11-20 17:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by jcklrsn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in this exactl same place. i thought he loved me but i knew deep down he didnt. im so sorry that you fell for the wrong guy but you need to get out of the relationship. maybe if you did he would realise that your the one for him and beg for ou to come back,. or maybe he wont. whatever the outcome you and your baby deserve better and dont let his actions grind you down.
xx
2006-11-20 17:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by DesertRose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it quick and as painless as possible. You have a child together so it's best that you separate amicably.
2006-11-20 17:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing him. Put the baby up for adoption so 2 parents can raise him/her.
2006-11-20 17:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
sounds like me give him space so he realizes what he has! and if he comes back then you will know.
2006-11-20 17:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋