i want to let go coz my love for her is not complete coz i cant accept her but i can't let go coz i got financial obligations, i owe her some money, that i know i have to pay...what will i do?
2006-11-20 09:32:28 · 19 answers · asked by clinch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont date her past, date her future!
2006-11-20 09:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Danny G 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past. I am sure you have done things in the past that you are not proud of and others have forgiven you for it. Did this happen while you with her or before you were with her? That is your problem if you can't forget her PAST.
If you can't be with her for whatever reason, you don't have to be with her to pay her back. You can end the relationship and still pay her back what you owe her. Don't hang onto to something you cannot give her just because of financial obligations. That can still be arranged. Don't make her think you still love her and there is hope for a future if you honestly cannot be in a relationship with her. It is living a lie. Be honest and communicate and work it out so you will pay her back.
2006-11-20 09:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why does her past matter to you? has it affected you now? don't be with her because you knwo you owe her money and she won't ask for it unless you guys break up- it's a hard situation to be in- just break it off if you feel that uncomfortable and talk to her about a payment plan or something i'm sure she'll understand but- doens't sound too fair to her that you want to break it off because of her past. Was she a prostitute or something? if so- get over it!!!! if you love her- think of iot this way- IT"S HER PAST NOW!!!!!!!!!! you need to no dwell on these things and start a new life. You're not making it easier for her by reminding her of her mistakes or whatever.
2006-11-20 09:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently she accepted your past or she wouldn't be paying for it. So pay her and I'm certain she only is being nice to you because you owe her. Pay her off, who cares what she did in her past??????? Except you, her past wasn't a problem when she loaned you $$$$$$$ This is on you. Seems maybe you should find a job move on. They call people like you O'Cello it's the name of a SPONGE
2006-11-20 09:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by carmella.2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her then you trust her, so don't hold her past against her, maybe shes changed. But if you don't love her then brake up with her but make sure she gets her money. Good Luck and I hope everything works out for the best!
2006-11-20 09:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whether or not you stay with her or not....you're still going to owe her money....PAY IT.....as for her past......here's the harsh truth...shut up and DEAL WITH IT because you cant change it and neither can she. Its in the past..as long as makes you happy now in this present time...then her past is not important (especially if it was before you)
2006-11-20 09:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpeach8684 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...THAT IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN EVER DO!!!!.... don't punish her for what she did in the past... you should never do that to the one you care about..... people change... and work hard to do so..... don't put her down for what she has done.... encourage her for what she has accomplished and will continue to accomplish in the future..... i think you are lucky to have someone that has worked on bettering themselves... they have very positive characteristics.... they are determined.... intelligent....and forgiving.... they know how it feels to make a mistake be judged for it and still have enough courage to keep going no matter how people turn their noses up at them.... and uhmmm... she was trust worthy enough to lend YOU money... money.... that you haven't even paid back yet... i think you are the one who can not be trusted her not her!!!...
GOOD LUCK!!!... you'll need it
2006-11-20 09:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by honey_coated_love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure if you tell her you are just staying with her because of financial obligations...she will show you what to do
2006-11-20 09:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by kimandchris2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to live with her & love her in order to pay her back.
You borrow money from a bank and you don't love or live with them.
Break up with her, move on....Pay her back what you owe her...
2006-11-20 09:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
??? ok ??? U love her but hate her past. In other word u love her but jsut dont wanna pay her... U wanna let her go because u have to pay her.... Just pay her.
2006-11-20 09:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by Xaven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't hold on to her because u owe her money... u can pay her off even if u are seperated.
2006-11-20 09:37:27 · answer #11 · answered by SwEeTs!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋