It would be really embarrasing and awkward if I asked her out and she said no but if I miss this opportunity, I know i'll really regret it. Are there any clues in body language or any subtle questions I can ask to find out?
2006-11-20 09:23:38 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you everyone for your advice. I've found them ALL useful, it's going to be really difficult to chose a best answer.
At the end of the day i'm gonna have to take the plunge and ask her out. Thanks again and wish me luck.
2006-11-20 09:42:03 · update #1
Nope, you just gotta go for it. Yeah, you may get rejected, but that's all part of the dating game. Don't let it get you down. You win some and you lose some. But like you said, if you let this pass you by, you may always wonder. Give it a shot and ask her out, maybe just for coffee or a quick bite for lunch. Try it!
2006-11-20 09:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is as cautious as you are, then it will become a standoff, neither one will make a move because of the fear of embarrassment.
Bottom line is, you can show some subtle moves on your own to let her know you like her. Then watch her reaction, if she likes you in return, she will show you signs, the biggest of which is when she smiles. In her mind she will be asking, I wonder if this guy really likes me?
Remember the biggest mistake you can make is to try and rush things, a woman needs time to think it out, and make up her mind, and if you try and rush her, before she is ready . . . . . . . . you are history.
Do some direct eye contact and ask her how her day is going. Open a conversation, and see where it goes, if things are looking good, ask her out for dinner at a nice restaurant where you can get to know one another better, outside the work environment.
Remember, no guts, no glory.
Darryl S.
2006-11-20 09:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Stingray 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me when I tell you that dating someone you work with is like s***ting where you sleep. It is rarely a good idea. If you think it would be embarassing for her to say no if you ask her out, then think how awkard making a living can be with an ex in the office - or just while having an argument.
If you will not heed my advice, then I suggest you try to get a bunch of people together for happy hour one night - holiday time is perfect for this. Mention it to her first and ask her which night she would be more likely to make it to Wed or Fri (for example). From there you will know.
If she simply can not come up with a time or alternative to your invitation, then she is not interested in you. If she gives you a day and acts like it's a good idea and sounds like fun, then she is either interested in you or at least likes you enough to accept your invitation.
Once she accepts, follow through on getting others to join you and make it really casual. Once you are out in the crowd you can learn more about her - as we always do over holiday drinks.
Peace!
2006-11-20 09:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she wants to get some lunch with you. Doesn't have to be in a (I like you) kinda way. Co-workers get lunch together all the time. She how she responds to that. Even if she says no, she may suggest another day. Or she may politely decline because she is too busy.. But that way you don't really go out on a limb and yet you made the first advance.
2006-11-20 09:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by Dawn J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no 'fool proof way' if you already feel that you're getting good vibes from her, maybe flirt a little more, find excuses to touch a little bit more.
just be off hand about a few tickets to somewhere good like some theatre or whatever & tell her something like 'i know what it sounds like but, I don't want to waste them... etc
but flirting's the best thing. I certainly wouldn't ask though if I needed my job and couldn't bounce back without too much hassle if it happened that I lost it.
2006-11-20 09:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard question....Alot of women flirt with men even though they are not interested in them. Its horrible I know but the truth.
Try inviting her out for a very informal coffee with some other workmates. Then try to speak mostly to her, focus around a restaurant you like and suggest you could take her out to it. If she says yes, then you have a chance, if she says no. You know where you stand.
2006-11-20 09:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she talks to you a lot, and shows more interest than answering your questions, the easiest thing to talk about is food. mention a good place you have heard of or been to and ask her if shes been there, if she hasn't tell her" we should go one of these days." if she has and likes it, then again tell her " well maybe if you'd like we can go some time" if she mentions something you have never been to tell her "oh yeah? I've never been there"
2006-11-20 09:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Angelina R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she stares straight into your eyes, laughs at what you say, her eyes light up when she sees you, she subtly touches you, her body 'mirrors' yours when you are near each other......
Failing that, you could leave her an anonymous sweet present (chocs works for me!) on her desk one day, and if she likes you, you will be able to tell if she likes you from her reaction to it when she finds out its from you!
Best of luck
2006-11-20 09:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by extremely_confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - unless you ask her you will never know.
A word of warning -based on experience of someone I know at my own company. Ask yourself the following question:
"If I date this woman, possibly have sex with her, and it ends ugly, can I continue to function at work?"
I am dead serious.
FP
2006-11-20 09:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always take chances is my theory. If you want to know, though, start asking around, but still keep it on the down low.
2006-11-20 09:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by makelovenothate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋