My daughter brought home a report card with 2 D's on it...when her progress report came out right before Thankgiving break she had 2 F's and 1 D.... I grounded her untill her teachers said she lifted those grades. She does struggle with learning BUT I expect C's at the very least. Now she thinks I am unfair because she has to spend her week break at home with no Phone. She still has T.V. and radio.
2006-11-20 09:01:22 · 12 answers · asked by yidlmama 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since the progress report I have been in touch with her teachers via e-mail. They all said she isgreat but has to focus a little less on the social part of 7th grade!
2006-11-20 09:21:05 · update #1
It sounds like you've been WAY too soft on her. C's? You expect C's? Are you serious? Unless she is mentally challenged, you should be expecting A's. Who gives a rat's @ss about her social life? She's in school to learn, not to become popular or whatever.
If you don't expect A's, then she won't expect A's. Period. If your child is striving for A's in every single subject at this age, by the time High School gets here, she's going to be totally lost which is only going to contribute to more bad grades. She'll use all kinds of cop outs that you allow, "I'm not that smart", "I'm not good in that subject", "but it's haaaard". Whatever, they are all excuses and cop outs and you have allowed them so far.
Take away the tv and radio as well. Who cares about what she thinks is fair? Hopefully not you. Because in case you haven't figured it out, at that age, if you aren't giving her the credit card to go shopping whenever she wants, a cell phone, and later on a car, then it's "unfair". Life isn't fair, it's best if she learns that soon.
2006-11-20 09:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who needs to judge the fairness or unfairness of the action. It does sound a bit harsh to me IF (and VERY BIG IF) this is the first time she's been told to get after the school work. If she's been told before and kept slipping, it doesn't sound harsh at all. If you've been over this before with her, I'd likely take away TV too.
2006-11-20 17:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a question of fairness. You set the expectations and she is to meet them. If she needs help, talk to the school about any available. But you pay for all of the luxuries and extras, so you say what happens and who uses them. Her job is to be a student and she is failing at it.
What is it going to be like for her in 10 years when she failed out of college and is working at McDonald's as a cashier? Is she going to complain "It's unfair" and you still support and enable her? Life is what you put into it.
2006-11-20 17:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Joe S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she had the warning with the 2 "D"s. tell her that she can earn her stuff back. Our 15 year old last year went through that in HS. She went into what we called "black out" she had no external stimulation from anyone but family till the grades came up. We did take her to church with us, but we watched the tests on I-Parent and she earned it all back and is sporting all "C"s or better not...well world geography is still marginal...but she has not zeros and is making a solid effort.
Good luck and God Bless
2006-11-20 18:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What this world needs is more parents like you. One who doesn't overlook bad grades and takes her child's education very seriously. What would be more unfair to her is if you didn't care.
2006-11-20 17:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely fair. Not only will this teach her a lesson on how education is important, but it may also make her understnad responsiability.. and that it is her and HER own responsiability to bring up those grades.
2006-11-20 18:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by booklust07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down or take your daughter nice and have a conversation with her about the importance of a quality education and offer to speak to her teachers and counslers together she may need more help then you know so be positive with her yelling will not help as I am sure she feels bad enough already good luck!
2006-11-20 17:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by ken j 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you are not being unfair. If it were me I would have had nothing but school books so I think she's privlaged w/ the TV and radio.
2006-11-20 17:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by soccer2music 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take away the tv first than cheak on her every so often to make sure she is doing her home work
2006-11-20 17:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew W. 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds more than fair to me.
2006-11-20 17:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by morganslilone 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋