This girl that I like, she invited me to her upcoming birthday party. I don't want to go because there will be people there and I don't feel like socializing. Would it be too rude to say I don't want to come? And how can I say it in a nice way? Would it be stupid if I tell her I don't want to come because I'm anti-social? I mean, I still like her, but I just want to hang out with her.
2006-11-20 08:50:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, I think you should go to her birthday party, thats pretty important!
I don't always like big crowds either but make the effort and I'm sure she will be stoked!
2006-11-20 08:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that you appreciate the invite but you can't make it. But tell her to have a great birthday and party and that maybe you 2 could get together the following weekend (or some time) and celebrate her birthday then. (Make it into you asking her out on a date to make up for not being able to make it to her party.) I am sure she will say yes as long as she likes kyou enough to go out on a date alone with you
You don't want to tell her that you are anti-social, that is a turn off. You need to try and socialize a little and get use to it becasue if you 2 end up dating she is going to want to hang out with other friends while she is with you and you would have to talk to them or you would be rude.
good luck!
2006-11-20 08:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by Tami S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a social phobia and I used to miss out on all kinds of events. There are many excuses you can use if you really feel like you want to. You could just say "No, thank you" "No, I have a hard time dealing with crowds" "No, I have plans that night" "No I don't feel good." Of course the last two will be lies and that's never good. But I think you should go to this party. You may have more fun than you think you will.
2006-11-20 08:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her something's important has come up (like you have gotta help a friend or something, and its important), at least she won't feel like you have an issue with her that way.
But then again, if you are going to develop anything with this girl, you may wanna just get the initial meeting friends/family bit over and done with now, so later on you won't dread it as much!
2006-11-20 08:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by extremely_confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her could you and her get together after the party to be a lone. Tell her that you are not quite comfortable right now to be around a crowd, and you want to spend some time with her on her birthday, so after the party would be good for you if she don't mind!
2006-11-20 08:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the party. It's her birthday, suck it up don't be a wuss it will pay off in the end. Don't say anything to her it's a lose lose for you. Her friends are part of the package. You don't have to like them all but you have to get along with a few, go and scout it out it can'ty be that bad. Bring one of your friends. If it's ok with her.
2006-11-20 08:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by burny mc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her thank you for inviting me, but I'd really rather celebrate your birthday by taking you to dinner. How about we go out the day before or after the party.
2006-11-20 08:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you like her more then a friend, then tell you that you would like to take her out for a more intimate birthday celebration. Just tell her you have something to do on that day then bother making up excuses or explaining your social issues.
2006-11-20 08:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So, you don't want to go. You could have the easy way. Have a friend go with you EVERYWHERE or stay near other people. If she comes up to you, say your busy that day or something like that. But if you really like this girl you might have to just suck it up, and just go. I doubt you'll be sorry.
2006-11-20 09:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by Hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have a prior commitment, then say that you'd like to take her out for her birthday another time - just the 2 of you.
2006-11-20 08:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by woodlands127 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋