I'm having trouble in bed....?

Question

Okay, I'm not a prude, I've been in a serious relationship for about a year now. But it seems that lately, no matter what he does, how he does it, and how I help, I can't seem to orgasm. At all... unless I finish it myself. What the hell is wrong with me? Does anyone have any (real - don't be an ***....) suggestions? I'd appreciate your input as this is really starting to bother me.

Answer 1

Try using a toy when you guys are having sex,,, spice up you sex and make it more fun,, you will be cumming all night..

Answer 2

You are likely just a bundle of nerves about it. You should not try so hard - it just makes you all tense and that ain't going to work.

I would RARELY suggest this but even a few drinks (NOT wasted) before might make you more interested in the acts and concentrate less on the end result. You might find you get there easier than you think. Take your time. Don't pressure your bf about it you'll just make him feel like a jerk. And if you need to use your fingers/a toy while doggying than do it.

Getting all stressed about it WON'T help. It will come (pardon the pun).

Answer 3

I'd first suggest to go get a check up. Something might be going on with your body that you're unaware of.
You said that you "finish yourself" and that means you do get pleased somehow. I suggest quit finishing yourself off. If you keep that up long enough, your boyfriend will be more than what you need to orgasm. Perhaps, hold off on having intercourse for a bit. Maybe, start playing more with him. I'm sure he'd love a few bj's back to back!
Also, in females orgasms are typically emotional. Are you still into having sex with your boyfriend? Is it just easier to do it yourself? Are you preoccupied with work, life, etc.? These are all questions you need to internally analyze.
Good luck!

Answer 4

There could be a couple things bothering you....do you still like the guy? Sometimes you are not turned on by the guy anymore and can't help it.
Are you worrying too much? If you focus on the fact that you may not be able to orgasm you my convince yourself you can't.
Alos, try new positions and things...it's easy to get into a sex rut.

Answer 5

OK.. Try
1. A strip tease
2. Lubricant
3.Strong foreplay
4. Oral sex on each other
5. Doggy-style let him pull your hair
6. Wear stiletto heels and a smile, Sit in a chair place your heels on his knees and play w/your p**sy while he watches really get into it and then take it to the bed from there.

Answer 6

you feel presure... i've heard of many, many women who don't have an orgasm with a man...

one thing to remember, it's difficult for a woman to have an orgasm from internal stimulation (with the exception of the g-spot, though that's difficult for many men to find)... i've seen many shows on hbo that gives information that might be able to help (the real sex shows, cathouse, that stuff)...

Answer 7

Happens to a lot of people. You have to show him how to touch you and until he learns, implement some toys in the mix. Maybe even fantasize about another man. But make sure you get yours before he get his.

Answer 8

I'm not trying to be smart or an as shole but try more and different foreplay. Try different things like letting him shave you or some of those warming gells.

Answer 9

Maybe you are stressing too much about it. Or maybe there is serious problems in your relationship that's not allowing you to feel comfortable with him. You can do it yourself so it's not a physical problem.

Answer 10

well it may not be you. it may be him not hitting the right spots at the right time. it may be that you are jumping right into it and not letting him get you started. try (seriously) finding something to stimulate your clit while he's making love to you only to help get you started then let him finish but don't ever tell him its because of him it will tear him up....

Answer 11

You should do it yourdelf before you do it with your partner it gets the blood going and the 2nd one is always the best one .