I'm 13, live with my mom and my older sister, 17.My dad passed away. When I do something wrong, my mom makes me wear girls clothes for punishment. Sometimes just a frilly pinafore apron, or full girls clothes, including bra and pantis , if the offense is bad, I don't have to go out dressed like a girland my friends have never seen me like that, but it's kinda embarrassing and humiliating anyway. Nothing against girls, but it happens I'm a boy.
Besides mom and my sister, some of mom's friendds has seen me dresed like a girl and they said it was a good punishment.
Mom syas it's out of love and to make me respect women. I usually don't get in trouble, but of course sometimes I do something wrong. Do I have to obey mom when she tells me to wear girls clothes?
2006-11-20 08:16:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is humiliating you. Next time she suggests it, tell her that you will not. If she persists, tell her that you have CPS on speed dial. This is a form of abuse, it is cruel and can damage you later on and maybe cause you to hate women. She is doing more harm than good. If she doesn't quit, then when you get older, I would forward all the psychiatrist bills to her. Get help now, if not for you, then for her! God bless.
2006-11-20 08:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi... I believe that the punishment you receive isn't right, bc like you said its humiliating an its embarrassing. All that the punishment that your mom is doing might help with your low self esteem. I have a brother your age an when he does something wrong we usually just ground him for a two or three days so that means no TV, video games, going out with friends. Even though your mom says it's out of love for you well i think that that is B.S. Maybe you should tell talk to some one about the situation or maybe just try to talk to your mom an tell here that the punishment is unfair and how you feel about it an see if you can work some other type of punishment for your wrong actions.
2006-11-20 08:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by s3xY m@ma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, sounds like she's trying to be creative and really trying to leave an impact on you. But the full on girls clothing you mentioned is going too far. I hope this doesn't do any psychological damage to you. Does she do this as a direct punishment because you disrespected a woman? I can kind of see the connection she's trying to make, but it doesn't sound like a good idea. This sounds more like a prank adults would play on each other, but not on someone your age. If you are willing to accept alternative punishments such as: not receiving an allowance or cleaning a part of the house, or give up some tv/video game time, or stay in a weekend instead of hanging with your friends, discuss it with her. It's amazing you are accepting this punishment in the first place! Good Luck.
2006-11-20 08:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Im so sorry she should not ever do that to you. This is the time when you are molding your self for the future. What she is doing is extreamly harmful to you. Ask your sister if she can help you tell her its not a funny thing and you would rather be grounded then to have to wear that. And that is a type of abuse. Talk to your mom and if noting happens call someone. Also your school councerler is required by law to do something about it.
2006-11-20 08:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by techno_baby111 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all children should do as they are told. This has been a parental mantra since the beginning of time. Next, it sounds like your mother is having trouble communicating with you. We as parents, do not always know how best to correct(punish)or communicate with our children. Even the most wise of parents could use some help from their children in ways that we could more effectively communicate. As parents though we do not believe it to be correct to show any type of weakness. If we were to ask for advice from our children, then what kind of situation would we be putting ourselves in? So what do we do...we plug through as best as we know how. Now some of the more "advanced" parents reflect back on conversations and disicplinary actions to see if thet were actually effective. But that does not always gaurantee the effectiveness of those types of parents. What I am trying to get at is that you should calmly, rationally, and with great forethought plan out a talk session with your mom. And during that talk, you should with the utmost respect, discuss with your mom how you feel. In this discussion you should include legitimate alternatives to the type of disiciplinary action that could take place, and you should be able to effectively discuss why that type of disicpline would be more effective than her making you dress like a girl and demoralizing your basic human character. Please understand that this type of punishment that your mother is using on you is probably the best way that she can communicate with you how severe she belives you actions are aginst her, your siblings, yourself, or others. A well thought out heart to heart talk should alleviate what is transpiring now.
2006-11-20 08:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by dr.cocktail 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-22 10:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, without all of the details, I think that it sounds a little over the top. My advice is to talk to your mom and let her know how it makes you feel. If that doesn't work, then talk with an adult that you trust such as a teacher, guidance counselor, a doctor, etc.
I don't know what you've done to get in trouble, but I know that I would never embarrass my kids intentionally.
2006-11-20 08:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by toledoman6 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i really dont understand how dressing like a woman is going to make you have more respect for women, i would think you would have resentment towards them. but hey- use a little reverse psychology on them - say hey i really like dressing this way, can i get a sex change? Or tell them maybe you will become a cross dresser if thats what they wnat! that will throw them for a loop.
on a more serious note that is abuse- maybe you should talk to someone
2006-11-20 08:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by kd baby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well sorry but yes you should obey your mother when she tells you something. And yes you need to love and respect women and for that matter you need to respect everyone. As far as the puneshment I think its weird. I would not do this to my kids. I cant tell your mom not to do this but I dont think this is a normal punishment. Tell her how you feel and mabey see if you 2 can come up with a better punishment for when you do something wrong. Hope it all goes well for you
2006-11-20 08:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by heidi19852006 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't quote me on this but thats pretty damn abusive, i dont think your mom has the right to do that to you...if anythign that wil make u disrespect women and probably make u never have a stable relationship (no offense to you hon) but yeahh....
2006-11-20 08:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋