I have a friend whose daughter will look you in the eye and lie to you AFTER you catch her in the act!! (she was jumping on the bed this particular time) She will deny it to the end! She will not admit what she did even after you tell her that you saw her do it!
2006-11-20 08:07:53 · 19 answers · asked by startwinkle05 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
manuel j - I should worry about this because she was at my house playing with my children when she lied to me about jumping on my daughter's bed!
2006-11-20 09:47:09 · update #1
I am a teacher and I deal with this kind of behavior from youngsters all day. First of all, have you sat down and talked with her that lying is bad??? Maybe buying the book, The Boy Who Cried Wolf and reading it to her at bedtime for several nights in a row is a good idea. Second of all, do you have a consistent discipline system in place?? For example, every time she lies, what sort of punishment or consequence does she receive? You need to remember that you are the one in control of this, so do not let her walk all over you. Call her on it when she is wrong, and give her a punishment, such as time out, or not allowing her to do a certain activity or if you were raised like I was, maybe you will spank her. If she tries to argue with you, say "No, honey, I can't believe a word you said because you have been lying to me and I cannot tell what is true and what is false....just like the boy who cried wolf..." Yes, she will be upset, but is a learning experience for her that lying is bad. But one thing is true, you need some thing consistent in place so she knows that every time she misbehaves then X behavior from mom will result. If you do this, then this and she knows and is fully aware that her actions will cause a certain punishment, this will usually extinguish the problem.
2006-11-20 08:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been in this exact situation. My friend's daughter would plead innocence for something she KNEW I saw her do. I told her to stop lying to me, and would give all the kids a time out in chairs to "remember the rules" (not really fair to the other kids, but their peer pressure helped her follow the rules.) Some children lie because they've been raised to believe they are the bestest of the best, so no matter what, they're right .
Remember, this is NOT YOUR CHILD and you better not spank her, even if you have the parents' permission to do so (legal issue - protect your own behind). I have taught children and have three of my own and have found that children usually lie because they don't want you to think badly of them. Some children lie because they are afraid they will be beat if they tell the truth. (I remember this happening when I was a teen - these kids got sent home on a youth camp out and were beaten by dad as punishment. It was horrifying.)
2006-11-20 08:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by voycinwilderness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with apostolic........ I also know that from experience, washing their mouth out with soap. You have to be careful not to get it in her nose and that you help her wash it out, but the bottom line is, lieing will not be tolerated. If the soap doesn't do it, then I would put her in the corner for 10 min at a time, if that doesn't break her of it, then I would spank her and put her in a time out chair with no tv or radio or any friends around so that she may have the time needed to think about the lie she had just told and not lieing next time when she asked for the truth. Even though I suggest these things, I also suggest that after her punishment, mommy talks to her in a very loving voice and explains to her how lieing can hurt people and her, and how it does hurt mommy, that mommy doesn't lie so she shouldn't either and that mommy will not tolerate or except her lieing to her. That she is loved very much, but her lies are not exceptable behavior. BLessed be..........
2006-11-20 08:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey I've worked in a school system for 22 years and that's a hard one. I've known a few people in my life if they told me the people in the graveyard were dead I'd dig them up to check their pulse. I had a child to tell me once that their little half brother had died and it was a bare faced lie. She was five.I honestly have no idea how to break a liar. Sometimes they get so used to lying that they actually believe what they say as being the truth. Prayer is the only thing that will help.
2006-11-20 08:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure it is not productive in any way for the child to lie. It is a normal part of development to try to get out of trouble, but if she consistently is punished for wrong-doing and consistently rewarded for right-doing then it will sink in (slowly). Note also that at a certain age (my kids it was around 5 years old) they get some satisfaction out of silly answers so her lying may also include some of that factor as well.
2006-11-20 08:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Julian A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Punishment, that's all there is to it. She could deny till tomorrow morning but regardless of it, the punishment for the act is in place. Usually taking away something the child values is the best way (telephone, going out, tv, etc)
2006-11-20 08:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by GirlUdontKnow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm speaking from experience as a wild child; discipline. Okay, recently some people think its absolutely disgusting to punish your child but I learned simply that it isn't. I lied or did something I wasn't supposed to do, I got my butt spanked. :-) Admittedly, I still have a bit of a wild side but I learned that I needed to obey and that's stuck.
2006-11-20 08:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by Simon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the newborn is in all probability attempting to interrupt you and their father as much as get mommy and daddy lower back mutually. the newborn is only 3 and a '0.5 and in all probability doesnt be attentive to lieing is erroneous. On yet another be conscious, i be attentive to diverse toddlers from families that stayed mutually that lie, cheat, and thieve, so it relatively is not basically 'broken' families. that's recommended to think approximately being a splash greater open minded.
2016-10-22 10:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mother, but from what I've observed over the years, parents who discipline their children the correct way only have to worry about these things every once in a while. I'm gonna say the answer is discipline. Spank the child when you know they've lied. Make sure in every other action, you follow thru with what you say. Make sure they know that you will do what you say, you are not a liar, and you do not fail to follow thru.
2006-11-20 08:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by apostolicgem 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, it depends on her age. Toddlers will lie, but not to cover their butts...they will tell you what they think you want to hear, what they think will please you most. If they are a little older, and really understand the consequences of lying then some sort of punishment is in order. (Something age appropriate, ie if she is older take away her iPod.)
2006-11-20 08:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by Trixie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋