large age difference???????

Question

who is ok with it? why?
who is not ok with it? why?

my boyfriend and i are 18 years apart. i'm 18, and he is 36. We have a wonderful relationship,and plan on getting married in February. I know if's not for everyone. I was just wondering what ya'll thought.

Answer 1

I got married when I was 18 to a man that was 36 and it's 11 years later and it is still going strong!! To the people who think he is a pedophile: maybe she was 18 when they started the relationship! I met, dated and married my husband when I was 18! Age does not make any difference if you love each other!!

Answer 2

After the age of 25, I easily tend to think of that an age diffrence is not any biggie. My mom became into 35(divorced w/2 young ones) and married a 23 365 days previous guy. There on no account became into an age subject, even many some years into the dating. I tell all of us who's thinking of having married the comparable element: Take a while, love will final no count number if that's actual. in case you have any reservations,...wait, make certain. Be large pals mutually with your love b4 u marry. sturdy luck to you sweetie!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

I think it's ridiculous. Your a kid still and he's a grown man. Would you see yourself dating an 18 y/o boy if you were 36? That's a senior in high school. In fact if you were 6 months or so younger he'd be committing a felony by having sex with you. In fact, if he's been dating you and having sex with you before you were 18, he's a pedophile and a possible felon.

This is not healthy. You could be his daughter.

Most 18 year olds are just starting out life and have no idea what love is.

Dr. Phil had a show where a lot of girls your age like guys in their late 30's-40's; The girls like the security and being taken care of, and the men like the sex and the young looks of the girl. At one point Dr. Phil just said,"this creeps me out."

You are at 2 different levels of your life. He's in the middle and your just beginning. You havent' even lived yet. This is not a good idea.

Answer 4

Most people will tell you that 18 years is too much. I tend to agree with that. The reason is I think of how I was at 18 and how I am now. It's almost like you're looking at 2 different people! (And I'm not 36 yet!) Be prepared for those changes....

However, if you two love each other and are honest and open with each other, there's nothing wrong with it. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Been there, done that !! Got the Divorce!!
Believe me, you will a completely different person in 10 years. You probably won't see things the same by then.
No hurry on the marriage thing, take your time and really think it through.
I think you may already have some sort of doubts, or you wouldn't be asking this Q.

Answer 6

I agree with Kja. For a man of that age, you're too close to being a minor. He sounds like a pedophile.

Also, you're 18 now and haven't had much dating experience to be sure of what you want. Get married now and most likely, you will be bored by your mid twenties or thirties. Don't get caught up in this "prince charming fantasy".

Answer 7

my father was 38 and my mother 18 when they married. They stayed together till he died at 78. (He turned 63 the year Iwas born, by the way). Anything can work if it's right. Whether it's right, is up to you.

Answer 8

Remember when you are 36 he will be 54.

Answer 9

I agree but I answered a similar question earlier. I went through it all and was deeply upset when she left. I hope it works out for you. Good luck.

Answer 10

you only have to think of what kind of life you want..he may be able to support yu because he's older but he will want kids sooner..you will have to take care of him and deal with health problems as you both get older..i dated older men and am so glad i found the love of my life as my same age...it's so much more familier when somebody is at the same life stages as you...he's already been there and done that with his life you haven't experianced any of that yet...
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