Oh where to start, well I've been mates with this guy for nearly 8 years and we've always had this flirtatous relationship, and I've always kinda liked him, but never admited it to him (big fat coward, fear of rejection). We hadn't seen each other for ages but we stayed in touch and he's always there in my hour of need, and vice versa. For the first time in years we met up and went out and now I can't get him out of my head. I really want to tell him how I feel, but I don't know if it's a good idea. I don't know if we'd be able to work past it if he didn't feel the same way, I don't know what to do it's really getting me down. I'd psyched myself up to call him and tell him tonight, but I couldn't do it, I'm a bit of a clown and I'm certain that unless I'm drunk I'm never gonna be able to tell him. When I saw him he kept hugging me, and kissing me on the head, (hmm....) but that aside I think I strayed too far into the friend zone what do i doooo. HEEEELP!!
2006-11-20 08:02:14 · 14 answers · asked by Beige girl interrupted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take him out for a beer, let him open up to you about his life, and then when you're both having a good time, lay a big fat kiss on him. Not too wet, not too desperate, not too lingering. Then let the chips fall as they may.
2006-11-20 08:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously DON'T GET DRUNK! I've done that sort of thing before & just ended up making a total fool of myself. What you should do is, go out together for a walk or something along those lines. Prepare him for what you're going to say, don't just blurt it out 'cause that'll totally waste the moment LOL.
When you're telling him about how you feel don't make it sound desperate but at the same time, really make sure he gets what you're saying.
If the two of you are such good friends, whether he feels the same way or not, the two of you should still be friends. The way you're talking though, it sounds as if he might be into you too!
Good luck ;o)!
Marianne
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2006-11-20 08:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by x_butterflied_x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you have to lose, really? You only live once and imagine if he is feeling the same way as you? Really into you but afraid to say something? Then you'll never get to be together.
Just throw your fear out and confidently tell him how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same way, act normally! This is the most important part. Don't let him see that you are bothered by it. In time, you will get over his rejection and be glad that you at least know.
However, it sounds as though he may feel the same!
Go for it!!!!
2006-11-20 08:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you have to really weigh the options. Sometimes, all it takes is saying "Hey, I think I want to be more than just friends, how about you?" You know him better than I. Is it worth the risk? It worked for me. I didn't have the courage to have the face to face though. I sent a letter. Back in the days before email.
You might begin by telling him what the relationship has meant to you. If it has been as meaningful to him, that should open the door for sharing your feelings.
2006-11-20 08:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by mheape 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just do it..especially if you've known him for 8 years..damn.. i liked my friend too and ive only just known here for 1 year and i got over it cus it wasnt worth losing a friend if she didnt feel the same...but you've had this going on for 8 F**kin years TELL HIM. and if you cant than call your best girlfriend...and get DRUNK.. if thats the only way you'll ever do it!! and make sure she explains to him y u got drunk in order to tell him..good luck
2006-11-20 08:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by conejo rabbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let lose your fear coz that wont make any different. if you tell him and he reject, you got nothing. if you dont tell him, he never know and yet you still got nothing. tell him so that you wont regret soon. be yourself. tell him what you feel.
2006-11-20 08:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Liquid Solid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl I have been there with my friend. I was his friend for 6 years. One day I told him I loved him and that he didn't have to love me back but that I loved him. Good luck gurl! ~Mandy~
2006-11-20 08:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rather that just coming out and saying that you like him, you could ask him if he'd ever thought of you that way.
2006-11-20 08:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him how you feel! he very well might be feeling the exact same way as you...and if you dont tell him, you'll wonder the rest of your life what he would have said...
2006-11-20 08:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by Katie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
propose, it's that simple. if you doesn't accept, he may still date you, once he now's how you feel. he'll think your really sweet. why do women panic, whenever their getting into a serious relationship.
2006-11-20 08:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by russellhamuk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋