I only get to see him about two times a week, I know he has things on his mind, and I do too. But I dont believe that every time we are together we have to act on them. We dont, but I have a feeling that he thinks we should. I like being with him and am not always thinking about sexual things. I really like him and enjoy being with him, our time together is limited because of the distance, what do you think we should do to make the best of our time together when we are with each other? Serios answers please. I have spent the night with him twice before and loved it, but I am not always able to stay. Any suggestions would be helpful.
2006-11-20 07:58:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in a LDR also. I get to see my BF every other weekend. Honestly, when we are together we dont do much of anything, but spend time alone together. I mean we go out once in a while, but most of the time we spend together on the couch cuddling or something to that affect. It isnt always about sex either. Some weekends there is a lot of sex, some not so much. When you are so far apart the main thing you want to do is spend quality time with the other person while you can. Talking and communication is essential in this type of relationship. The best part of the LDR is that when you do get to see each other, you feel like its the first time again because its been a while since you saw each other.
So my point is, it does not matter what you do while you are together, it just matters that you are together.
2006-11-20 08:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could the thing on his mind be that he's in another relationship? It does sound like you guys are making the most of the time together. Relationships are not all about the sex. Age is not an issue. If its working, its working, and don't worry about what anyone has to say. You only live for yourself. What you do only effects you and your partner. Because he's older he'll have other issues though. He may not be able to provide the "stay up" factor, but there are drugs out there for that.
2006-11-20 16:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a tough situation, but I think you have to ask yourself some tough questions. Why is a 46-year-old man in a relationship wtih a 25-year-old woman? What is in it for him? What do you really have in common and what is keeping you together?
If there is more to the relationship than twice a week sex for him, then be honest with him about your feelings and that you want more than a physical relationship with him.
2006-11-20 16:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by mheape 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it sounds as if the man is only interested in you for sex. A 46 year old man should have other things on his mind than just acting out "sexual things". He should be taking you out to dinner, having nice conversations with you and otherwise treating you like a lady. The fact that he doesn't is troubling. You sound too good for him. If you want to make the best of your time with him, then you will need to assert your wants and needs and see how he reacts. If he bristles at your suggestions, you might want to take that as a cue that he doesn't have your best intentions in mind....but is in fact only using you...
2006-11-20 16:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Value your time together...if it's 5 minutes, or 5 hours, etc
Age is not a difference if you really LOVE each other. That's a gift some of us never will recieve(to love and be loved)
Good Luck.
2006-11-20 16:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the age difference, if you love him, it doesn't matter how old either of you are. As for when you are together, just do what feels right to you. If something makes you uncomfortable, you don't have to do it.
2006-11-20 16:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by Krisie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sexual issue. If distance and age is keeping you apart, then he has obligations elsewhere. That doesn't mean you aren't attracted to him ( and he you ) but its more likely to be a f*buddy arrangement.
Bottom line...he's probably married or in a LTR. Have fun...or get out.
2006-11-20 16:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by James S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First i wuld see if he has any x wives. But really if i were you i wouldnt be telling him all of my thoughts not trying to say you are. i would probaly be caution around him. if you met him online then just tell him you would thin that it wont work. but thats probaly a different story. just ask him certain questions you may ask him a few personal questions and if he answers them all i would be caution.
2006-11-20 16:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jay Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 26 he's 46. It's all about sex
2006-11-20 16:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by sxyalmond 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well when you are 30 he will be an old man of 50. its like your grandpa.
cant you find someone your own age for Christs sake?
2006-11-20 16:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋