My parents have been divorced for 16 years. I do not get along with my dad's wife. Definition evil stepmother. My mom is dating. How do I only invite my parents? I don't want either one of them to bring a guest. If they do it may be a Jerry Spinger wedding. They both know how I feel about their spouse but are putting pressure on me to let their signifigant other come.
2006-11-20 07:47:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is your day. Although it would be nice for everyone to be there, you have to make a decision that will keep your day special. One scene can make your wedding a nightmare. Talk to both your parents and tell them how you feel. If either decline the invitation, just let them know if they change their mind, they are so welcome to come and you would love it. Keep in mind "This is your day." Don't let anything spoil this day for you. It is one of the most important days of your life. Good luck
2006-11-20 07:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I understand it's "your day". But don't you think it's a special day for your parents as well? They wouldn't want to miss it either. You've got to show that you are mature in your thinking. Inviting your parents partners is not only courteous but also shows your respect for the persons who brought you into this world. Who knows it might be a start to better relationships among you all. Wouldn't you want that? A very important decision for you. It's impact is gonna stay with you for the rest of your life. So decide wisely.
2006-11-21 00:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding and if you don't want them to bring their significant others, then they shouldn't bring anyone. You also should hire a wedding planner, or some third party, to make sure that only those on your guest list are at the reception. There isn't much you can do about the ceremony, but make sure someone is there to keep things calm at the reception.
2006-11-20 13:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette is that if you invite one person - you must invite their partner if they are married or engaged. If they are just dating - you don't have to invite them. This goes for parents to. NOT inviting the evil step mother is definitly not going to make the situation any easier in the long run - talk to you dad and mom, and ask them to make sure that the situation stays under control on your special day.
2006-11-20 10:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy...do I know how you feel. My Mom is dating the guy she cheated on my Dad with and Dad hates both of them. This will cause so many problems and I hate the idea of everyone getting into it. But I also hate the idea of my Mom not coming, b/c I don't want her guy there. I'm having this conversation with her now and I just hope she understands and it will all work out ok.
2006-11-20 08:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by JME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say that it is your wedding adn that there not going to mess ti up by bringing there mutated guests that you dont like! Its you wedding , you controll it , invite who ever you want and if the people you dont want there goes, then just kick them out!
good luck! =)
2006-11-20 08:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding, your special day. If you feel there is even a chance of something ruining it for you then just sit them down and be open and honest with them. Tell them that while you love them immensely and respect them you hope they will respect your wishes and hopes for a perfect wedding day. If they can't abide by your decision tell them you will send them a video of the wedding and that you will miss their presence. Its cold and harsh I know... but its your life not theirs. They should be adult enough to respect your wishes.
2006-11-20 07:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by knite_hawk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be the bigger person in this situation and invite them. Whether you like them is not the issue. They are your mother/fathers spouse, and they are apart of your family. Just because they are there does not mean however that you have to act like you love them dearly. Be cordial, and leave it at that.
2006-11-20 10:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your *parents*. How disrespectful would it be to invite all the other guests to bring their significant others, but refuse this courtesy to your parents? I know the wedding is supposed to be "your" day - but if it wasn't for your parents, you wouldn't be here to celebrate it. Don't be so selfish.
2006-11-20 08:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine you have to let them bring their spouses. How would you feel if someone asked you not to bring your husband/fiance/bf ?? Seat them far apart and ask them not to speak to each other.
2006-11-20 07:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋