Yesterday my boyfriend told me he might still have feelings for his ex. They dated for 3 years, and he broke up with her a few weeks before he met me. We waited a month before we started dating. Anyway, we've been dating about 3 and a half months now. He lives in VA (where I am), and she lives in MN. Anyway, he said he's feeling jealous because she's dating someone else now. He's trying to figure out if he still loves her. Well, today, he told me he felt a lot better, and though he wants to think some more, he thinks I'll be happy with what he's decided. He told me yesterday that he KNOWS he loves me, and he's not sure how he feels about her. He said it's scary that he loves me so much because he always thought you could only feel that way about one person. Now, I've become what his ex was - the most important person in his life. He says he's just scared...what do you think?
2006-11-20 07:42:53 · 10 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would give him some time alone to figure out what he truly wants. He cannot tell you he KNOWS he loves you and in the same breath say that he still wants to think about his feelings for his ex. Give him some space and if he truly loves you and ya'll are meant to be then he will come back.
2006-11-20 07:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time. Poeple fall in love and get married...over and over..so the idea that one can only love one person just doesn't fit logically. Of course he feels jealous about someone else diving into what was his...its only natural. Give him a day or two to mull it over without interference ( its called individual respect )..and then lower the boom on him with some hot lovin' to follow that up. Show him that he made the right choice, and that she could'nt stand in your boots. That's taking it to him! She could never do for him what you're about to!
2006-11-20 15:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by James S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be scared 'cause he's confusing what love, "first love", and "growing love" kinda is. He was with her for 3 years. After a long period of time, you learn to grow with that person and you'll always have a piece of them in your heart. It's hard to let go of someone like that. They probably were serious about eachother, although I know this isn't what you want to hear, and made a lot of memories together. Like I said, it's hard to let go of someone like that. I hope this helps.
2006-11-20 15:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Might still have feeling" as far as I am concerned is to many feelings. I admire his honesty, but you owe it to yourself to find someone that wants YOU.
I am sure he does love you, but what does that have to do with anything? There is an off chance you can be setting yourself up to get hurt. I don't care if she lived on the moon, if he still loves her, he'll find a way to make it work.
Now, if you really want him, fight for him. There is nothing wrong with fighting for what you want, but only you know if he is worth fighting for.
2006-11-20 15:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay yea i think that he has been talking to his ex because there is no way that one day he just comes out and says that he still has feelings for her yea i know that not what you want to hear but it has to be something like that because you guys have been dateing for like three months and then he comes up with this there is talking going on between them sorry to say!!! and for him telling you that he loves you and that you are the world to him i think that he is trying to tell you this so he will not think about her!!!! but thats just me i think that you need to talk to him about this and ask him who he wants to be with you or wait for the other chick!! i am sorry for what i say but i am just trying to help!!!
2006-11-20 15:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by brit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down, tell him how much you like him, but tell him you deserve someone who like you just as much or even more, that you want him to go figure out his emotions, give him a week to check himself, after that, he needs to make his mind up, were not little kids holding flowers, saying he love me, he loves me not.. you deserve better, and he needs to check himself
2006-11-20 15:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do I think? I think he is unstable. His conversation is unsettling and depicts inner turmoil. Does this type of instability manifest itself in other areas of his life? I'd take a close look. You may have more to deal with then I'd want to deal with. If it were me, I'd move on. (without him)
2006-11-20 15:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF MY BOYFRIEND TOLD ME HE MIGHT STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIS EX ID FINISH WITH HIM............EVEN IF HE DOEST HE AT LEAST LIKES HER... AND WHEN SHES NOT GOING OUT WITH THAT GUY HE MIGHT MAKE A MOVE..
2006-11-20 15:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Michelle,give him space and if he really loves you he will come back.
2006-11-20 15:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b.s! he is full of b.s., honey do not play 2nd runner up 2 no other chick
2006-11-20 15:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by mzvirgo19 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋