what should i do ??i think i have located my birth mother (haven't seen since i was 7, she chose real man over me)last i seen my sister she was 1 and I was 5 so I dont think she would remember I have pictures! but i dont think she knows I exist. Do i have any legal rights to see my sister if my mom doesn't want me. Im just afriad of goin there and having the door slammed into my face. that would crush me
2006-11-20 07:38:59 · 9 answers · asked by mizzmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call your birth mother and talk to her. Tell her exactly what you have said in your question. Your birth mother may be happy to reunite you and siblings. I had a similar situation with my son who I adopted and I called his birth mother and explained that I had her biological son. She had remarried and had another son who did not know about the one she gave up. I told her to take time and if she decided to tell the son about his brother and wanted to meet him, that could be arranged. We actually became very good friends. The relation between my son and his birth mother is on a friendly basic because he see me as Mom.
I wish you very much luck with this and a wonderful outcome.
2006-11-20 08:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out how old you are. If your sister is a minor, then your mother could probably interfere. But why would she? We don't know why you were separated from your mother and sister, do you?
Maybe it would be better to write her a letter, that way you will NOT see her reaction and she can think about it a bit BEFORE she answers. Otherwise, she might identify you with the reason for the separation. People should not be judged by their reaction to a sudden shock, but rather have a chance to let their emotions settle a bit first. I have no doubt that she has suffered guilt and pain from the separation. I would make absolutely sure I was right before approaching her.
2006-11-20 07:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by plezurgui 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I thought I'd found my dad, I sent a letter asking if he was the person that married my mother (name & dates, etc). I said if he was, he could contact me at my phone number & address. Little did I know, but he showed up in my driveway 5 days later.
As for your siblings, if they are minors, it will be up to your mother on meeting them. When they are adults, you can contact them directly. I would recommend the letter first. That way, if they don't want contact, you will be less hurt by no response than a slamed door in your face.
Good Luck
2006-11-20 07:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by c.s. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 04:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you really have to lose? Maybe you were too small to understand everything. Your mom maybe waiting for the day you look her up? Your sister has the right to know you and the choice to love you...Give them a chance...it is really in your benifit...Good luck in your search...
2006-11-20 07:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by bbmk333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it would be best to wait until your sister is old enough to decide for herself. Sounds like your mother wasn't much of anything, I would keep your distance...you don't need that drama.
2006-11-20 07:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by qamberq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your sister is a minor you will have to go through the mom
2006-11-20 07:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opioion i think you should contact the women and ask to see the silbing you have the right to see the your sister. so if i were you i would call. if she does what you to them go ahead and do it because she your sister and you have the right to see her as her brother.
2006-11-20 07:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by C.V chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure but go over there
2006-11-20 07:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋