I'm 15 and still a virgin. Frankly, I don't feel prepared to have sex. I'm afraid it'll be a kinda traumatic experience if I have sex now. Most guys my age only want sex for pleasure. I think I'm mature for my age, but I don't think I'm enough mature to get engaged. And it's almost impossible to love a man at my age. Many people say I'm childish because I'm not into boys as many girls my age, and for now my priority is is school, though I also love swimming and have many friends. I get along with my parents and my bro, and frequently go out with mom, she ikes those mother/daughter days and I think they are cool. My parents treat me with love, are understanding when I do something wrong and I like this, I dont see why I should fight instead of talking.
I'm happy, but so many other teens and even adults keep saying I'm childish, inexperienced, I don't act like a 3 rd millennium girl that I'm getting upset;.Much peer pressure. What's wrong with me?
2006-11-20 07:32:32 · 30 answers · asked by Adriana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe I should talk with my parents about peer pressure, but Im afraid they can get scared and ground me. Not for punishment but for protection
2006-11-20 07:34:05 · update #1
your only 15 hun, some people wait till their mid twenties, and others longer. Talk to your parents about when they had their first time, and don't do it until your ready and you've found someone you love. Your parents will listen fine, and its only uncomfortable at firs during such a conversation, but you'll be quite certain on your situation afterwards.
2006-11-20 07:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!
You are not childish or inexperienced. You actually seem more mature than others your age. You are a great person and with good head on your shoulders and you should stay that way. You are too young to be having sex with boys. School should remain your priority. Don't let what others do or say get in the way of the things you do or the great life you have and your relationship with your family. If you take the path that others your age are taking, you will have many regrets that will haunt you for the rest of your life. Keep doing what you are doing and being who you are.
2006-11-20 07:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by workinggirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're weird at all. The world needs more girls like you around. You should be concentrating on school and enjoying life instead of boys. You're not being immature. If anything, you're being mature for your age. If you get involved with a boy now, most likely you'll be hurt. Only because at your age, boys aren't into a realationship for love, but for lust. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16. When I turned 16 I still wasn't really interested in boys. I didn't really become interested in dating until I was 18. I remained a virgin until I was 21. You need to be you. Don't worry about the peer pressure. Kids in school just say stuff to make you feel bad and it usually works. But, all that stuff won't matter when you're grown up, an adult, and are way ahead of the game because you concentrated on school and enjoying life instead of concentrating on boys. It sounds like you have a wonderful family, so just enjoy them. You keep being you and don't let what adults or other kids your age say bother you. You'll be a wonderful adult when you get there!! Good luck & God bless!!
2006-11-20 07:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have your head on straight. Do not cave in and do something that you are not ready to do!!!! You're only 15. There is a whole lot to worry about once you begin to have sex. Too much for a girl your age to have to deal with. If a guy is pressuring you that much, tell him where to go!!! Guys will totally respect you more in the long run...they do talk about the loose girls in school. Don't be that subject!
2006-11-20 07:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dnt become one of those people! you sound amazin! there is nothing wrong with you at all! im 17 and im still a virgin because of most of the guys i know just want one thing and i wont let them...being with your family is important because at the end of the day when something goes wrong your by eachothers sides!! in like 20 years time your going to look back and think how wonderful you were where as most girls will look back thinkin wat a slut they were! your not childish at all! you seem more mature than everyone else. i think that there is too much pressure on teenagers these days about what they should be doing and its leadin to girls being pregnant at like 12 years old! but ur bright :) and your goin to smart about your teenage years and do what you want to do not what others tell you cos none of this will matter in years to come but your knowledge and family will follow for years!
2006-11-20 08:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by meekaboox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you sound like a very smart and stable girl. I wouldn't pay attention to what other kids your age are saying... if they're all about sex. If you don't feel ready - then you're not. Talking to your parents wouldn't hurt... I don't know that they would go crazy and ground you or something. I think they would be very proud of you for knowing that you don't -want- to have sex. A lot of kids think that just because they're bodies are ready for it - that their minds are as well... which really isn't the case. With everything that comes along with sex - STDs and pregnancy... it isn't something you need. I wish more kids had the same view as you did.
2006-11-20 07:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE SO RIGHT! Sex is when you love someone and how do you really know what love is at your age. Even a mature 15 year old should take her time to know her own body and feelings before letting some boy use and abuse your body. No one but you will know when the "right time" is. God knows and is watching. Hold on to your viginity for as long as you need to...Imagine what your future hubby could say when he knows he is your first? It could be very nice or you may find a special moment when you know 100% that your inlove and ready. I guess my point is YOU WILL KNOW WHEN YOUR READY! Your mom and dad should be very proud of you...
2006-11-20 07:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by bbmk333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, there's nothing wrong with you still being a virgin. i lost my virginity at your age, and the guy didn't care about me at all, and the whole thing was a horrible experience. i wish that i had waited until i was in a serious relationship. but as far as sex goes, you should do whatever feels right for you. also, you're very fortunate to have that kind of a relationship with your parents, i wish i could have had that with my parents. overall, it sounds like you've got a good life, i don't see anything wrong here. you will decide when you are ready to become sexually active, and nobody else. and don't worry about other people's opinions are, your sexual life is none of their business. good luck!
2006-11-20 07:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you for being a virgin at 15. Its best to find that special someone before you loose your virginity and take your time finding that special someone. Don't let peer pressure get to you. I think you're mature for not giving in to peer pressure just to loose your virginity. Its not something you'll like yourself for if you give into peer pressure. Just be you and when the time is right for you, i'm sure it will happen and you'll be glad that you waited.
2006-11-20 07:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by tigkitty3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a level-headed, intelligent, unusual 15 yo. It's okay not to be normal. NORMAL is fighting with your parents, getting STD or pregnant before age 20, to a person you arent' married to. SO DON'T TRY TO BE LIKE OTHER GIRLS YOUR AGE if they call themselves normal.
You are much smarter than the average girl, so don't give in to peer pressure, and PLEASE, discuss this with your parents, maybe mom first. They will understand and love you more for being honest and mature.
Good Luck
2006-11-20 07:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you! In fact, everything is right about you!!!
Don't give in to peer pressure...it is mostly because people feel jealous!!! I think you are doing great!! Focusing on studies, having friends, having a great relationship with your family...all great!! Don't worry too much about love and sex and all this stuff...these things will come at the right time....you are still young...you are doing the right thing...and you have your whole life ahead of you!!!!
You are doing very well...don't give in to the pressure...you have a great life without making any changes!
Good luck!
2006-11-20 07:37:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋