I have a number of problems people...?

Question

i am a 19 year old, single, childless, jobless, carless female. i graduated from high school early when i was 17 and since then i haven't been doing anything but jumping from job to job. i am being urged to go to college and i am taunted by my mother because my manic depressive personality won't let me keep a job. And when i do have a job i never get any hours for some unknown reason, and it never works out. my mother is ashamed of me because i am not doing what she thinks i should be doing. but sometimes i sit down and ask myself, "are there any 18 or 19 yr olds who have it altogether anyway?"
my family stresses me out so much about getting myself together that i forget that i am inly 19. i was diagnosed as bipolar so i've been dealing witrh it on my own. my mom just thinks i want to act crazy when its not in my control when my "episodes" start. she makes me feel like a burden and so unwanted. my depression is ruining my life and has been for 3 years! what should i do!

i have already decided what i wanted to do with my life, but many people don't think its worth it. i want to be a brilliant novelist. i have been writing since i was 12, before my depression even exsisted. or maybe it did exsist but it was just hiding from me. but anyway, thats all i have ever wanted to be is a writer. and you usually don't have to go to college for that unless you just want to brush up on grammar and writing style. but those are things we learn in grade school.

Answer 1

The problem is you've been "taking care of it" on your own. You CANNOT control your bipolar/depression by yourself. Please get some help. Get to a doctor, get on medication and get some counseling. You need to do BOTH. That will help you hold on to a job. I know lots of people who hold good jobs and have for years who are bipolar. They take their medicine/counseling and they are fine. If you have untreated bipolar disorder.....then your life will only get worse.

Answer 2

Do you see a doctor about your depression? I can't stress how important it is to seek treatment. I honeslty don't think I would be alive if it weren't for anti-depressents, which is nothing anyone should be ashamed of. It sounds like your mother doesn't understand what your illness entails. Unfortunately, many people who haven't been there themselves think it is something you can just get over. We both know that's not true. It is an illness, a chemical imbalance that we have no control over. All we can do is learn how to keep it in check and how to live a normal life. When I was told this summer that I also am "mild" bi-polar, I took the time to educate my entire family. My husband, parents, sisters, brother and my close friends. We all know what to look for, indicating an episode, which aren't really a problem now that I'm on medication. Please don't let this ruin your life. I know it's hard and you're under a lot of stress, but you can handle it, I promise. I was the most emotionally unstable person I have ever known until I got help. Now I am stable, solid and happy!

I too have always wanted to be a novelist. I have been writing since I was about 12 and am currently in the middle of two manuscripts. I think if it's what you want to do, you should persue it. The only thing is, you are going to have to support yourself while you write, at least until you make it big! It's a good idea to take creative writing and english courses, which will help you become a better writer. Good luck!

Answer 3

First of all. Bipolar doesn't mean that you are out of control and things "are not your fault". That is an excuse. It just means that you have a harder time than most dealing with some things. It is not impossible for you to get things together... just harder.

Manic depression does not prevent you from keeping a job either. Seems like you are using that a lot. That is why your parents are upset with you.

If you finished school at 17, you are a very intellegent individual. No you don't have to have "everything together", as you have a lot of life ahead of you. HOWEVER, You do have to be doing something productive, or these years will pass you by, and the day will come when you DO have a family, spouse, etc. and are struggling to make ends meet because you don't have a stable career. Your parents care about you that is why they are hounding you. YOUR future helps YOU. NOT THEM. And truthfully, no one knows what you are capable of as much as your parents do. Even a doctor or psychiatrist does not know you as well as your parents do.

Answer 4

dont stress out too much. I'm now 21yrs old and could say things are starting to workout alright for me just recently. I know you probably look at some people that look so put together ie:have a car, in university, just the apple of their parents eye and it leaves you feeling like garbage. I went through that as well. 19 is still very young and its totally normal not to have all your berings, or being indisive about jobs. A few years of working towards goals you give yourself will do the world of best for you..You can be anything you want to be. It might not happen NOW. But try and think possitivly and keep your goals in mind and you will get there.

Answer 5

very positive. You're lying back watching the clouds just as you are watching the events in your life go by. Everything has clarity and definition, and there is variety as well. You're in a relaxed position indicating that you feel strong and confident about the way things are progressing. The sun feels good and colorful butterflies surround you. These are all the options and opportunities that you have right now, and they are plentiful. They can also signify the people in your life right now. Bright, energetic and beautiful, you are surrounded by positive energy from most every direction. This is a wonderful time for you where you are the one who's in charge of your life, and things are going extremely well. Seize some of those opportunities!

Answer 6

I am also bi-polar and have been diagnosed with depression, i feel your pain. I am a highschool drop-out so looks like you have 1-up on me! Anyways dont let them pressure you like that... you shouldnt be pushed to do anything, you are only 19 you have PLENTY of time to go to college. Right now if i were you i would get on meds ( if your not currently on them ) and try and keep a descent job. Once you have a good job established save money and then think about what you are going to do with your future. You are young you need alot of time to figure out what your going to do for the REST of your life....thats a long time... find something you like! Ignore what your mom tells you set goals and focus! good luck buddy!

Answer 7

x = 3y x + y = 28 => 3y + y = 28 => y = 28 / 4 = 7 x = 3y = 3*7 = 21 x = y-3 x+y = 21 =>y-3+y = 21 => 2y = 24 => y = 24/2 = 12 x = y - 3 = 12 - 3 = 9 x = y+5 2x = 3y-12 => 2(y+5) = 3y-12 => 2y + 10 = 3y - 12 => 10 + 12 = 3y - 2y => y = 22 x = y + 5 = 22 + 5 = 27

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Talk to your doctor about all of this. He may recommend disability. Are you taking medications? If not, talk to your doctor and get on medication. It will help. I have depression too. I take Wellbutrin XL and it is great for me. You need to find something that works for you. Good luck.

Answer 10

Seek a professionals help, your mom loves you and is only trying to help you because she loves you and wants what is best for you!!