Very angry at my ex?

Question

I left my ex in February, I was doing okay (though he kept hounding me to take him back, meanwhile, he met someone in March and slept with her while still seeing me), then finally told him enough was enough. Then, he had this other woman move IN shortly afterwards. Then I became frantic and angry and begged him to take me back. He didnt. I stopped speaking to him entirely from May until November when he called and said the lady he was with left him. He would not leave me alone for 4 days, then she begged to come back, and he took her back. Now he wont call me back after some things that are still at his house which are mine. I cannot let this go. I am just so angry that it's a good thing I do not live near them. I have made an appt with a therapist to help me with this, but I am just SO angry. Any suggestions? please don't just say "move on" without telling me specifically what to do! thank you

I wanted to add that my ex called me today because he was supposed to send me money for the remaining items I have there. I told him never to call again, i will never call him, and have a nice life. I hope this was progress on my part. He still has no clue why I left him in the first place.. he was emotionally and verbally abusive but he doesnt agree.

Answer 1

spend your time doing something to help other people to forget about your problems...something nice for needy people over the hoilday season.
Erase his number, email...any form of contact you have with him b/c he's just abusing you b/c he knows you have a soft stop in your heart for him. Whatever you left there just let it go.
If you can change your number too.
Talk to your therapist and confide in a close friend.

Whatever you do....DO NOT CALL HIM

Answer 2

He is just trying to avoid being lonely. In short, play his game; talk to him when he calls, but tell him you're busy. Fill your life up with a hobby, go shopping with the girls, spend time with your mom. If you spend all of your free time waiting by the phone, you're just gonna get your heart broken. So with the time you have to cry over him and his trickery, use it for something that will benefit you or someone else.
As for the things that are at his house, ask nicely for them back. If he refuses, let them go (if they're not special or expensive.) If he needs to surround himself with things that will remind him of you, then he is never going to move on and will probably torture his brain to try to forget you. Try something new, paint based on your emotion. If you turned your feelings into colors, what would they look like?- show yourself what you can do!!!

Answer 3

I would try my hardest to forget this person. He sounds like he was using you for a roommate. What? He couldn't pay the rent and other bills on his own? My ex did the same thing to me. He started dating his BF's GF. Once she moved out he called me. I was nice to him, but made I very clear to him not to call me again. I refused to be his friend and I didn't want to be sucked back into his life. I am so better off and may be in time you will realize you are too.

Answer 4

I went through a similar situation with my ex wife. It sounds to me like you have already taken the biggest step to going forward. You've got an appointment with a therapist. I spent 3 years of sleepless nights and waiting for the phone to ring hoping it was her before I got professional help. It doesn't mean your nuts or anything like that. It just means you are smart enough to see you have a problem you can't handle on your own and getting help with it. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 5

It sounds to me that you both want something when you can't have it. Don't play games. You obviously don't want him or you wouldn't have left him! He obviously doesn't want you b/c he is living with someone else...geeeezzzz...