My son is turning 1 in Dec. I hate his grandmother on my husbands side. at my baby shower she stared trouble and ran people off... i told my husband about it and he did nothing just said it is my mother,,,, i told him this year she better act like an adult because it isnt about her and her ex husband it is about our son Wyatt. i also told him i would ask her to leave an he got mad at me and started a fight any suggestions on how to handle this?
2006-11-20 07:19:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is YOUR home YOUR life YOUR child and ultimately YOUR decision. Many parents seem to think they know best and to be honest they usually do, but that is no excuse for interference. Explain to your husband that whilst you are in his mothers house you will adhere to the rules laid down or not attend. She should give you the same respect. You are a mother and a wife dont you think you have earned the right to have YOUR say? i do.
2006-11-20 07:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Cff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just his mother, and you're just his wife. The whole "that's just the way she is" line doesn't mean anything. This is "just the way you are".
If he isn't going to ask his mother to behave or leave, then tell him that you will and that you're taking the baby with you until she's gone. You also need to be prepared to actually follow-through with this.
Now that you've given him a choice, let him figure out what he wants to do. I'm sure that you may have to leave this time and he's going to have to explain to everyone where you went and why. I'm also sure that he won't want to go through that again.
I know that he doesn't want to hurt his mother (he's a good boy), but you deserve the same amount of consideration.
2006-11-20 15:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by DA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a happy marriage...leave it alone. If she gets that stupid, let your husband see it himself. People do understand! You're certainly not the first and won't be the last that has an awful in-law.
2006-11-20 15:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her visit him for his birthday at a separate time from the rest of your guests, on a different day or on a different part of the day.
2006-11-20 18:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Zee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shared trouble? You mean started trouble?
Ask your husband/wife if she can stay home...
2006-11-20 15:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by I think... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋