me again plz help ..x thnks?

Question

i know you are trying to help but i CANNOT tell her how i feel because she is like a best friend to me. like i said i dont know if its love but i feel that i have always liked her but just couldnt admit it. when i eventually did i realised then that i had liked her since the moment i met her. is this normal for a friend to feel to feel like this towards another friend?? DONT KNOW IF ITS LOVE

i feel that if i had done things differently we would have been more than friends but how to know for sure? like i said before i am gonna ask her if she ever thought we could have been more than best friends. what if she takes it the wrong way?? i cannot tell her my feelings because losing her would be the end of the world for me. i cannot imagine her not in my life.HELP ME!!

Answer 1

i think you like him alot

Answer 2

If you are afraid of what her reactions might be if you tell her of your feelings, then don't do it in a serious tone. When you are hanging out with her, find the right time and jokingly ask her, what does she think of it if you two were to fall in love with each other. If she just brush it off and say something like you are spouting nonsense but blushing a bit, you have hope. Don't rush it though, she may not be able to take the sudden change. If she shows signs that she is not comfortable with that question, change the subject and you will know what to do next right?

Answer 3

Thing is, if losing her would end you're world then you must be feeling more than just friendship. i think that you're in love with her, just by the desperation of you're question. Tell her you've got these other feelings for her and see what she says....

If she say's she does'nt have the same feelings for you then maybe you should distance yourself from her to give yourself more time to get your head together, and by doing that you could also suss out how keen she is on you (ie she starts phoning you wondering where the hell you've been).

I've been in exactly the same situation as you, and thats what i would do if i could take back time.

take it easy mate, play it cool and you'll get through this better than i did....

Answer 4

Wow, i feel for you in this situation. If losing her means the end of the world for you, then you are truly trapped in loves strongest spell. But, if you are as good of friends as you say you are, then you expressing your feelings for her will not diminish the friendship my friend. take it slow, ask her out to dinner one night (not as a date) and while your waiting for your meal talk to her about it. Dont be blunt, try and be smooth with your words. You do not have to tell her you love her to let her know that you do.

If you are happy with the friendship you have with her, dont pressure the issue, i have found in the past that words are not have as important as actions. The way you smile when your around her, the way you get the nice clothes on, the way you shower everytime before you see her, you always have your teeth brushed, it is these little things that lets her know you love her. Try to notice it with her as well. Look for that smile, and look for that feeling you get in your stomach when you hang out with her alone. Those butterflies in your stomach mean more than anything you can ever say to her my friend. I wish you look with her, im sure you will be fine

Answer 5

this relies upon on how long and how nicely u comprehend dis guy. while you're rather specific that ur love is actual and has what it takes to proceed till the top of existence residing for an further, dont supply it up. yet dont do something xtreme like leaving residing house or getting married till a minimum of considered one of u are actual settled and ave an honest activity a %. to stay mutually etc. while you're actually not so specific appropriate to the intensity of the relationship u greater proper leave this at the back of and pass on. the reality that he's status against his mom and dad for you presently's difficulty to alter... in the event that they proceed to be consistent on the contest to u men gettin married its no longer so specific dat dis individual will continuously desire u over his mom and dad- earlier or after marriage. that's probably the main severe decesion on your existence. So I advice u to think of this over being actual on your heart and likewise your innovations. Your mom and dad wont choose you in a foul residing situations. Ask dem brazenly y are they no longer agreeing with you, try thinking on their component additionally. it's going to assist in making a clever decesion dat u dont would desire to experience sorry approximately later........ stable success!!

Answer 6

Well I guess its better your just friends, keep it that way. So many people ruin friendships by trying to make the next move. When your in love you don't need to think about it.

Answer 7

If your refusing to do or ask what you know you need to then dont do or say anything and run the risk of losing her to someone else. Does that sound better? If not, get a hold of your balls and ask the woman !!!!

Answer 8

Why don't u ask her if she has a boyfriend? That will tell u if she is in love with some1 else or maybe it will prompt her to say something about her feelings for u

Answer 9

if you really are best friend then your friendship will survive it. go ahead and say how you feel! if you can't talk it can't be much of a friendship if you don't ask you will never know and if you do feel this way you will live your life wondering - what if??? i'd rather know and get embarresed.

Answer 10

Like I said earlier, you have to try. But if yo are really scared of your friendship breaking up, then wait and let things work out itself. It did for me.

Answer 11

Jeez, life is so complicated for the sensitive! Try becoming a cynical old git like me, you'll have a much easier time.