In the past my friend has self harmed (cutting her arms and legs) but recently she has gotten better with the help and support of me and her other friends but today she came into school with three ear piercings that she did herself. When I asked her why and how she did it she said, i was bored and i just shoved the needles through my ears and put an earing in. I asked her she did it because she wanted to feel pain (basically was she self harming) and she got really annoyed and said that it wasnt, and she just wanted her ears pierced again. But I feel its self harm. What do you think? Self harm or just because she wants her ears pierced?
2006-11-20 06:58:26 · 6 answers · asked by just_a_metaphor 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
ok i know exactly how you must feel. I have done this exact same thing. I used to cut and eventually felt so bad i told my friends and they saved my life basically. but then i went through a rough time during my senior year in high school and started doing my own pericings. I did two of them. And omg did they get infected! tell your friend that if she wants her ears peirced to get it done profesionally. this could be a new way of her hurting herself. i mean 3 is kinda excessive. just sit her down and express your concern hopefully she will listen. besides the infections that come with at home pirecings are awful and can be dangerous. *also if she is pericing cartalige she could over do it and make it break. i did this and now the top part of my left ear droops its embarassing as hell*
2006-11-20 07:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by yup yep 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has had a little set back in the self harming stuff. Yes the part a bout piercing her own ears, is self destructive, if she wanted more piercings she should have had a professional do it.
2006-11-20 07:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she was annoyed at you for asking tells me that she is embarrassed by it. I would have to say it is self harm--no one just wants to peirce their ears because they are bored. Peircings and tatooes are socially acceptable forms of self harm if they are dome in excess. Your friend needs professional help to stop self harming. This is a cry for help and should not be taken lightly. I know you and your other friends are helping her and I commend you for that. But self harm is a very addictive behavior and a good indication that something deeper is hurting your friend. She cuts to feel something other than what she is feeling. Encourage her to see a therapist to help her work out her problems. Don't stop helping her but have her get professional help.
peace and hope
2006-11-20 07:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by wild&free 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah, thats not self harm. i used to cut myself a long time ago. they do it on their arms and legs bc they can see the blood, and there are a lot more nerves in the arms and legs than in the ears. i also pierced my ear and stuck an earring in too, and not bc i wanted to hurt myself, but bc i really wanted my ear pierced.
2006-11-20 07:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Seth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a cutter myself i know that every ounce of pain that i give myself is self harm even if i dont admit it. i pierced my belly button twice and then let it close up just to feel the pain but thats not what i told everyone,i said i wanted it pierced but i just wanted the rush again. its really hard to tell but most peoplewouldnt do it three times by themselves mayb one but not that many.
2006-11-20 07:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by shii shii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, my answer is (no surprise here) "tell HER parents." They need to know what's going on, and they're in the best position to get her any help she may need.
You're a good friend to be attuned to this and worried about it. Now take the next step and put this information in the hands of someone who can do something.
2006-11-20 07:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋