I have a coplex, related to bust though it's not visible, so I don't like sex until I'm really fond of the other guy, which is practically never, I'm quite attractive but that's something I'll never overcome.Be sincere, I don't mind hearing all kind of opinions
2006-11-20 06:56:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Absolutely!
Sex is not necessary to have real intimacy. And it is intimacy that is what's really exciting in a relatinoship.
Intimacy is reached through complete honesty in a heart safe envirnment. If you and/or your partner has problems related to opening your souls to each other, then you will never reach the kind of intimacy that will give you the greatest satisfaction and fulfilment possible in a relationship. If your complex holds you back in this area, then you need to work on this until you overcome it.
Work on the heart before you connect sexually. Then it will feel right and be right. Our minds were designed to work this way and the practice today of just hooking up without the intimacy that allows our emotions to feel like they have a safe place to dwell causes problems and more often than not undermines the ability to reach true intimacy.
Your heart is on the right track. Continue to learn and grow. Feel confident in your desire to hold back your sexual gifts and lusts until your emotional underpinnings are bouyed by the safety of heart-felt, honest intimacy.
2006-11-20 08:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been seeing a new guy for a few weeks and things are moving nice & slow so far. Mostly we go out and do fun stuff, it always helps when you have similar interests, have things in common and enjoy each other's personality! THAT is what makes a relationship fun & interesting & exciting... sex becomes a nice bonus when the time is right and you are comfortable together. I have a physical issue that I'm very conscious of and paranoid, so I have to be completely comfortable with someone before getting sexual... thankfully this guy is kinda shy too so that seems to work out well.
2006-11-20 15:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by zmj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not wait until you get married to have sex then, if you have a complex? Or work on overcoming your issue before getting into bed with a man. If you're coming into a relationship with emotional damage, you won't make good choices or be a good partner.
2006-11-20 14:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex is part of relationship-can be exciting-BUT not complete. Mostly you will have friends, not boyfriends or partners
2006-11-20 14:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋