how to dominate?

Question

Ive never been confident to be the dominant one in bed and i want to give my partner a nice surprise by being the dominant one and show him an even better time, any ideas

Answer 1

To dominate is to take the dominant position permanently. If this is what you are about, you will find it difficult, and ultimately, boring.

I am assuming that you are actually talking about just being the leader once in a while, and would suggest that you think of it rather like dancing in the sense of "who leads" your particular dance. It's a wonderful thing to take your turn and may open doors into some wonderful and fulfilling experiences for the two (I'm guessing two) of you.

If I may presume: Playful is always a good way to start. Initiate some kissing, ear-nibbling, or neck-uh-whatever you call that neck thing that feels so good.

Words work. Start with "c'mere you!", or a simple "I want you". This is almost always a pleasant surprise coming from ones partner, and I always find the promise of being wanted for something warm and sexy a very fine proposition that I am certainly willing to go along with. Yes Ma'am!

I notice that a number of other respondents immediately went into the toy chest and brought out the whips, ropes, handcuffs, etc.,

I wouldn't. Not without some long, sincere, open talks with loved one. Oddly enough, that's a kind of specialized sort of thing, and, in my opinion, vastly overrated, time consuming, and kind of creepy. Plus, I get leg cramps real easy.

Kink is fine, but , wait til later with the rubber sheets and wet suits.

Now whipped cream! That's a whole 'nother story! Wheeeeee!

Best wishes!

Answer 2

The key is to start gently - if you suddenly come out with a whip and handcuffs he'll run a mile!
Make sure you start on top - sit on him while kissing him, and do your usual gentle foreplay. Then surprise him by tying his wrists to the headboard with your stockings (or anything else you have to hand!). If he's comfortable with being tied up, then you are pretty good to go.... Next, see how he handles being blindfolded. This is sooooo sensual, and his senses will be much more sensitive. If he goes for that, then you can try building up to something a little rougher if that's what you both want. But if you decide to be rougher, make sure you both agree on a "safe word" so that he can stop you if you go too far. I find "Green" is good for "go", "yellow" for "getting close" and "red" for "stop" works.
Have fun!!!!

Answer 3

Don't ask him to move into certain positions - demand that he does as you say. Force yourself onto him if necessary. When he's in the mood, put the moves on him in bed first. Like, push him down onto the bed and ride him, cowgirl. If you're talking domination as in S&M, then kick it up a notch but start slow on him. Perhaps cuff him to the bed and have your way with him. ^_^

Answer 4

Just go for it. Just dont scare him. Be sexy dominating not freak in the bed gona whip you to death sorta thing. You can try by introducing some words in the bed room like,
"You like that don't you?"
Or demand him to slap your @$$ Dont ask him to do it just say
"Spank me!"

Hehehe what a fun question! =)

Answer 5

As you are lying in bed together try pushing his arms back over his head in a jokingly way and see how he reacts. Maybe sit on him and pin him down in a joking way too and at the same time let him know it is turning you on. You never know he may welcome it. There are many guys that like to be dominated in bed.

Answer 6

Handcuff him to the bed. That way you can be completely dominant and at your mercy.

Answer 7

Get your stockings and suspenders on, a basque etc... hide it behind a raincoat... and when he arrives at home/your place... off with the raincoat... point to the bedroom door and well the rest is up to you and your imagination (oh and a few of the other tips here!) .... whatever you decide,.... enjoy yourselves ;)

Answer 8

hand cuff him to the bed and ride him like a cow girl (cowgirl hat included)

Answer 9

Tie her up and have your way with her