I just think that there's a possibility that I might die a virgin. I mean I don't believe in sex before marriage and I'm not too sure I'll ever get married. I've seen too many failed marriages and I've almost completely lost faith in the whole idea. (I'm 20 by the way)
2006-11-20 06:51:12 · 43 answers · asked by Coco 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honey, 20 is young.. i'm 32 and still waiting..
i think you'd be better off dying a virgin than dying knowing that you regretted giving it away to the wrong guy.
so many people i know tell me they really regret their casual sex activities they did in their teen years.. most wish they could have their virginity back..
treasure your virginity.. it's a precious gift you have to yourself.. until you decide to give it to the one man who truly deserves it.
don't worry about dying or worrying about goals you won't accomplish in life or things you can't totally control..
focus on what you have now and what positive things in life you have control over...
stick to your values and morals and you'll never regret it..
2006-11-22 10:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well there are a couple of things to consider. One, while you may feel that you should wait till marriage for sex, you also should see that marriage is an option that you have, not something you have to do. Especially with the way marriages last these days. In terms of marriage itself, people are never fundamentally sound when they marry in the first place and so divorce is always the result. If you choose to marry and you have a solid foundation in which a marriage can be built then when you find the love of your life do marry. Second, you are only 20, so while you feel you may never get married you have to see the bigger picture. Marriage is not an over night process. It takes time and great commitment and dedication just to reach that point and when you do reach that point you have to sacrifice much to get there. Now in terms of sex you have every right to wait if you so choose nor is there any problem in you being a virgin. But it looks to me like you are sexually frustrated and the real issue is meeting your needs. I respect the fact that you desire to try and be as pure as can for your husband to be in the future, but if choose not to meet your needs or at least talk to someone about how you feel then youre gonna go looney and you will only hurt yourself. Dont use marriage as a reason to with hold sex from yourself. If you desire sex, then go get some. You wont be any less pure than if you waited. In fact, you will actually have some experience under your belt so that in the event you are married you can show your husband a trick or two in the bedroom and enjoy a healthy sex life. Im not saying go be some whore or something, please have some self respect. I am saying MEET YOUR NEEDS. Again, just keep in mind that your needs come first at this point because you are not married.
2006-11-20 07:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess it wouldn't be terrible to die a virgin but it would be terrible to lose hope in everything. And you never know whats going to happen! I was 18 and met a guy from a new job fell in love married him and now here we are 4 yrs later still happy. My best friend always feels like she was getting too old I think just because I was married so young. But on her 21 bday she was like I am never getting married I don't even have any prospects .. and then was married 4 days after her 22. You never know whats around the corner. But you are YOUNG and trust me marriage is not all it's cracked up to be... Sometimes I wish I had waited a little longer until I got married. (ps my husband was the first person I ever had sex with -though I was only 18 .. people do still do that it's not something to be ashamed of!!)
2006-11-20 06:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your only 20 so you have a long way to go. You might get married. But no it's not a bad thing to die a virgin. I am totally with you. I believe in marriage before sex. So don't loose faith because you are probable very pretty and I'm sure you will get married one day. For heavens sake your only 20. I have a sister who is 20 and she just moved out of the house over the weekend.
So you have a long time to go.
Hope I helped.
2006-11-20 06:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by halouno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what they say-- To love and lost is better than to not have loved at all. Don't give up the ship, there are a lot of good men out there just waiting for you. I love the idea you are still a virgin and keep it till marriage. There is nothing more special or sacred than two people sharing each other for the first time. I'm not talking religion, I'm not religious, I'm talking just being special for each other. Marriage will work with the right couple and knowing it is a two way street, give and take.
2006-11-20 06:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 20 and have given up on the idea of falling in love and finding a suitable partner to walk through life with? How utterly sad!!!! It took me a long time to find Mr Right, but once I did, it was worth every single minute of the 36 years it took me to find him! One of the main reasons people fail at marriage is because they settle for Mr or Miss Good Enough, and truly, that never is. Keep looking and enjoying yourself-you're way too young to worry about dying or never getting married. You must be a lot of laughs!
2006-11-20 06:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to be imagining virginity as your fate. Wait until you've dated a few of these guys that convince you that you do not want intimacy with the entire male population. You haven't given a long distance relationship, only to have it result in a cheating situation, before deciding that long engagements are not for you to know already that marriage may not be for you. You may be right, but only a cynic would agree with you this early.
Get some experience under your belt before deciding this.
2006-11-20 06:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All virgins go to heaven! Terrorists too believed that they will go to heaven when they die a martyr and waiting for them in Heaven are 72 virgins who will serve them!! Well, do you want to be a sex slave for a terrorist?
Sorry, jokes aside, for goddness sake, you are only 20. You'll never know what the future has in store for you. Have faith, you will come good!!
2006-11-20 07:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 21:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by marcy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 isnt that old and marriage isnt 4 everyone some people date the same person there whole life. I think u might get desperat and just have sex with some one eventually but if u do it soon youll enjoy it more
2006-11-20 06:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by MENTALLY UNSTABLE MAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be so horrible! People just look at life wrong. If u die a virgin, u will surely go to heaven. And in heaven, u can have all the pleasures u heart desires, and that includes sex!!!
2006-11-20 07:00:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋