Yes, this is a blended family (trying to stay away from the "step" title). 18 yr old girl (19 next month) supposed to start school in January, raised with single mother up to age 12. 12 yr old boy raised with both parents until age 7, lives with me and his father. 9 yr old girl raised with both parents until age 5, lives with her mother. 6 month old baby girl together. You can imagine all of the dynamics in this group. What are some general expectations age wise, for chores and family responsibility? We are trying to make this family work and it is very frustrating. My 18 yr old is giving the most problems at the moment, the 12 yr old is failing school and the 9 yr old doesn't really care as long as she is getting attention, preferably good. Everyone adores the baby, truly!! Please help!! I'm trying to save my family.
2006-11-20 06:50:14 · 4 answers · asked by Calli G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well good luck in all of this, as i can just imagine how tough this can be.
1st of I would have a fmaily meeting (as boring as the kids may think they are), and explain to them, that whether or not they enjoy this situation, and like it. This is a family now. Which means that everyone needs to pitch in and help. For the 18 year old, I would want her to start acting more responsible, helping out, poss. less attitude if that is a problem. For the 12 year old failing school. I would make it his 1st prioity to get his homework done, if not, then something will be taken away (X-box, etc...), if he needs help and is not understanding stuff to let you know, so he can get help. For the 9 year old, try to explain to her that even if she isn't right there for the center of attention that you guys still love her to death, and are very proud of her (as well as the other children), even though she is alittle older, she may still miss her time with you. Maybe as mom, you could do a girls day out with her, and go shopping,or just play with barbies. Lol, as for your little guy, I think he is set to go ;)
say that with more cooperation this family will run smoother, if you have to tighten te rules a little bit.
Chores: 18 year old: laundry, poss. baby sitting, less attitude?, dishes, helping clean
12 year old: more focus on homework (poss. reward if he really tries), garbage, and yard, dishes
9 year old, putting her toys back, and cleaning her room, helping mommy around the house.
Wish you the best of luck with them!
2006-11-20 07:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by mke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I expect the family to treat that turkey with respect. Save the turkey legs for the kids. I want tender breast meat.
2006-11-20 15:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You and your hubby should do both your part as parents. Your children role is to do their best to give mum and dad surprise rewards by their discipline, study and other achievements.
2006-11-21 09:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should expect them to act like a family. They will have to pull themselfs together.
2006-11-20 14:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by I think... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋