it was her 19th birthday 11-17 she knows i like her i told her 2 weeks ago than she said she just need a friend now. she just got out a 2 year relationship were they were going to marry but her ex broke it off cause he was unhappy. they been apart for maybe 2-4 months. we had a little to drink not much about 2 shots when it started she told me to cuddle her which i have done before. than she told to mess with her neck lick it and stuff that lead to making out. after a good half hour she gets up and says sorry. she not ready right. that what she sorry for right? what should i do now? what should i say? when should call?
ok i called and ask if she wanted go to the movie just as friend and she said she just want to stay home. i messed up right she sound like she dint want to talk at all. man im in deep Sh-- right.
2006-11-20 06:45:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just like in chess, it is possible to make all the right moves and still lose.
She may be embarassed, confused or both. The best move is to let her know that you are willing to discuss it when she is ready and that you don't have any expectations from her (aka you were caught by surprise as well). She may get over it on her own, or she may never be able to think of you the same way again. If you want to be her friend, continue to act like a friend and give her as much space as she needs to get backon her feet.
If you chase her too much, she will flee from you.
2006-11-20 07:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by mortis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact her and talk about the events that night. Invite her to a coffee shop for coffee and conversation. Tell her you understand that you both were under the influence of the alcohol and that she has nothing to be sorry for. Tell her you still understand that she needs a friend and that the other night was just an innocent result of a need to comfort and be comforted combined with a little too much to drink. Let her know that you are not expecting anything more than friendship from her at this time and you're sorry if you got her signals mixed up the other night. Make sure you tell her that you were not and never would take advantage of her and while sober ask how she would have you respond to her requests of that night. Tell her that in the future you will act accordingly and that you were just trying to fill her needs at that moment.
2006-11-20 14:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by notaxpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space for a while, let her figure out what she wants. In a week or two, call her up and invite her out. You should meet her somewhere that you are both sober to keep things from getting complicated.
2006-11-20 15:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by Phil R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand her really. she told u to do all those things. so why is she acting like this now?! hmm... I'm not really answering your question right? sorry! soo... go to her house (if she doesn't want to go somewhere with you) and talk to her. make things clear! good luck!
2006-11-20 14:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by sea_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just might be confused give her a few days then talk to her but ask her to be honest dont brake your head over the situation
2006-11-20 14:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋