What do you think is it me or is he that clever?
2006-11-20 06:37:57 · 23 answers · asked by msjazzyphd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's you.
-HtJ
2006-11-20 06:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by hesterthehester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does 'every time' mean? If you've suspected him of cheating a lot and have never caught him, then I think you need to cut him a break. What is he doing that makes you think that he's cheating? When he gets a phone call, does he go into another room? I do that, but only because I like privacy and don't want to bother my wife while I'm on the phone. Is he out at all hours of the night without calling you or telling you where he went?
Why not turn things around? Put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself if he would have reason to question you if you did what he's doing. If the answer is no, then you're paranoid for no reason and need to stop with the checking up on him before you lose him.
2006-11-20 06:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is you. Normally where there is smoke there is fire. Obviously he has no respect and if possible I would leave him, However in the real world it is not that easy to just up and leave with out proof. Maybe you could keep an eye out a little more you would need to be very careful though. If you live with him you could always check his phone records or the history on the computer. Good luck. I know how hard and painful it is and I hope that you can get the strength to just leave him and find someone who respects you.
2006-11-20 06:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Itry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be you, although women intuition is unusual not wrong. Have you ever cheated on him or are you cheating. I have found that usually the cheater accuses the faithful one of cheating because they have a guilty conscience or is it that you have been a another relationship when the man was unfaithful and you have a hard time trusting men?
2006-11-20 06:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't and you keep telling him that he is, he will. How clever is that? Maybe you ought to work on you marriage and stop trying to catch him in the wrong. You might end up with a good marriage.
2006-11-20 06:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by kstfas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one of two things are going on. One, have you been cheated on before? Are you projecting that bad relationship onto him? He could be a great guy and you are afraid of getting hurt.
Two, he's cheating. Women sometimes can tell when their man is straying. They get this 'gut feeling' and sometimes you can't prove it because he really is that clever.
Be careful though. You may ruin a great relationship. Is it worth that risk? Talk to him about your feelings for him. If you are that worried, it may be worth it to cool down and step back for a while to see if you are meant for each other.
Good luck!
2006-11-20 06:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetnisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. It could be a little of both or it could be none of the above. If you've been in a relationship before where someone cheated on you it's normal to think that of someone else. Try to stay strong and believe in your partner. If he is cheating on you believe me he'll slip up sometime.
2006-11-20 06:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by gdesigner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust the guy, how can you love him or yourself for putting up with someone you think is cheating on you. Break of the relationship and see what he does. If it's meant to be, he'll prove himself to you. On the other hand, maybe the guy isn't cheating and you're just paranoid. If he is cheating, woman up and do what you have to do.
2006-11-20 06:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably very clever. Nine times out of ten if a woman thinks a man is cheating, he is. Who says you need to catch him to dump him? If you think you know, then you know...dont waste anymore time....dump him.
2006-11-20 06:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you wouldn't wonder about it if you didn't have reason to. I think its natural for a woman to think her guy is cheating. But obviously, there's got to be a reason for the thought to have entered your head. Try asking him about your suspicions. Even if he isn't open about it, or even lies, at least he will know you are smarter than that, and if he is, he will most likely stop.
2006-11-20 06:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a woman can feel a little insecure and let her mind come up with all sorts of ideas. If he's actions change, look or appearance change, if he's insenitive, or you can't get in touch with him then maybe then he's cheating on you. If not, breathe,rethink, and communicate with him about your feelings and always ask of his.
2006-11-20 06:45:23 · answer #11 · answered by Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋