My boyfriend plans on reenlisting in the military. Only he wants to move to Georgia. He asked me to move their with him. We have been together for 2 years and those two yrs he's been in the forces,so i don't really know how it is being alone with him for long a period of time. He's either home for a 2 day pass or 2 weeks pass. But he spends most of those time with his family and we just hang out at night. He hasn't propose anytrhing about us getting married. One time he did say he would do like his family and be in a relationship for a 10yrs before deciding on marriage. Let's get to the point should i move in with him and move so far where i have no family there except him. Or should i press him to marry me an dmake it official.
2006-11-20 06:36:55 · 5 answers · asked by naomijoan0615 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i doubt either option will work. pressing him to marry you is not a good thing for either you or him. moving in with him in a different area without support from him (he could get sent anywhere!) could be too overwhelming for you. why not continue the relationship as it is for awhile until you both know this is a serious relationship, serious enough for a full time commitment that is. hang in there and by the way tell your bf thanks for his service and sacrifice and thanks to you too, you're giving up a lot too.
2006-11-20 06:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my ex husband when he was in the Army. I only saw him for weekends. The marriage only lasted a year. You two have a relationship that is based on fun. You dont have to worry about the realities of life and relationships when you are only spending the occasional evening together. Believe me it makes a world of difference once you try to go from a fun time relationship to a real one. I wouldn't marry him quite yet. You can try moving down there with him and giving it a try. Be sure to allow for an adjustment period but don't stick it out if once you've been there a while it just isnt working. As for your family... dont burn any bridges when you move with him. Make sure to keep in touch with your friends and family back home. It doesnt have to be forever that you live in Georgia! There are military bases all over the US so after some time he can request to be reassigned to somewhere closer to your family.
Also 10 years?? There is no way he should expect you to wait around while he decides if he wants you!
But it all comes down to what does your gut tell you?? Only you can make that decision. No one on here knows exactly what your situation is in and can decide for you. Do what you feel is best for you!
2006-11-20 06:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by gypsygoddess76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should push him to marry you, because if he wanted to then he'd ask and look @ his family, they have been in relationships for 0 b4 asking the other to marry them, so if you really love him and really want to be with him then move but if you dont think its going anywere then dont, you've been with him for 2 years on these 2day/2week passes, so why stop now, i think you should follow ur heart and do what it tells you.
2006-11-20 06:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by miss_villegas_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to press anyone to marry you. Tell him exactly what you want. If he isn't on the same level, move on.
2006-11-20 06:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait him if you really love him
of course press him
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2006-11-20 06:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋